how-to-reach-your-goals

Setting up new goals and intentions for yourself is fun, right? But what do you do once that fire, that motivation that was there at beginning, slowly begins to die down?

A couple of weeks a go, I told you guys that this year, I’m not setting up any “New Year resolutions” for myself- just goals. I love learning, growing as a person, and I really like change, too. This is why I love setting up different goals for myself- both small and big.

Sometimes reaching your goal can take time. Your excitement might wear off, you might lose your interest, you might even feel like giving up.

But you want to reach your goals, don’t you? And I want you to reach them too. Because you’re awesome and I want you to kick ass. This is why today, I’m sharing these 5 Habits You Need to Quit in Order to Achieve Your Goals.

CHASING PERFECTION

Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m a perfectionist when it comes to a lot of things. I also know, that chasing perfection is pointless, sometimes I even feel like it sucks the life out of me. It’s also something that I am constantly working on. When I first started blogging, I quit a couple of times before finally starting this blog. Even then, when my pictures looked nothing like those of some of my favorite bloggers, when I wasn’t entirely happy with the content I created, I felt like quitting. All the time. I’d sit on the floor with my camera and its manual in hand, crying in frustration because I didn’t know how to get my pictures to look a certain way. If they didn’t come out like I wanted them to, I thought “oh well, too bad. I’m not posting today.” This is the sort of behavior that I’m kinda still learning how to let go of, but also one that I can definitely say can stop you from reaching your goals. You don’t always need to be in control and making small mistakes here and there, is the only way to grow. Growing, learning, improving yourself- these are all amazing things. Constant search for perfection?  A waste of time.

COMPARISON

Comparison is the thief of joy“- you’ve probably hard this quote many times before, and I have to say that it’s these words that changed the way I used to look at things. I used to be this person who would always compare myself to others. Constantly.  I think that it might go all the way back to my childhood when comparison was something that was just always present in our culture/family. I’ve always had to hear how great of a student my best friend was, even though I’ve had good grades myself. I was always jealous that my other friend got to travel the world, while I spent my summer vacation in my grandmother’s backyard. Now that I live on another side of the world, I wish I could spend my Sundays in my grandmother’s kitchen, cooking and listening to the stories from her youth. When you waste your time comparing your life, your journey and yourself to others, you stop paying attention to all those amazing things and people that you have in your life. You think that someone else might have it easier than you because they have more money, a better job, a supportive family or because they just got “lucky”- but all of us have some sort of struggles that we go through, even if we don’t chose to share them with the world. I am a firm believer that we all have the ability to make our own luck- you cannot always control what happens to you, but you can certainly chose to face it with a positive attitude, to look at the bright side, and to keep going.

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FEAR OF FAILURE

Every single successful person had to overcome their fear of failure at some point and time  (and keep in mind that “successful” has different definitions to many different people). If you want to open the door of success, if you want to reach your goals, you need replace those feelings of fear with feelings of passion and desire. You need to want to reach your goals more than you’re afraid of failing. Remember that failing isn’t this awful, horrible thing- it means learning a lesson, learning something new about yourself and your journey. As long as you keep going after every time you fall- you will never be a failure.

EXCUSES

Oh, excuses.. we love those, don’t we? I think that these are especially common when talking fitness and health goals. We tend to tell ourselves that we don’t have enough time, that we’re too tired. You also might tell yourself that you’re too scared, that you don’t have it in you- all of these excuses are stopping you from taking responsibility and going after what you really want. Don’t tell yourself: “I’ll start Monday” or “I’ll start tomorrow”, start now.

LACK OF DISCIPLINE

Regardless of how big or small your goals are; whether it be to lose those extra 5 pounds, to start a healthier lifestyle, to be more successful at work, or to learn a new skill- there’s one very important thing you need, and that’s discipline. There will be days when you won’t feel working on whatever it is that’s important to you. There will be days when your motivation and inspiration that was so very strong at the beginning, will start to die down, and you will feel like quitting. It’s much easier to say “oh, I’ll just take a little break today” or “I’m too tired” than to keep going. This is why it’s so important to have self-discipline. Being disciplined means that sometimes you need delay your gratification, and do things that you don’t feel like doing. Rather than looking at the end result, try focusing on smaller, daily goals- that way it’ll be much less likely for you to feel discouraged.

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What are some of your goals at the moment? Can you identify any habits that stand in your way?

  • Sheridan Grady

    So so true! Comparison is a big one for me! Constantly comparing myself to others when I shouldn’t!! Great post x

    http://www.shayholly.co.uk

  • Lack of discipline especially when I’m tired or over worked. It’s all about preparation to stay in front of it for me. Great post!

  • Very inspiring post! I have to create more time that will be my goal :)

  • All so true. These are life lessons I wish I had learned in my 20’s! Comparison is my enemy, I try to keep it at bay every day!

  • I definitely struggled with fear of failure for a long time. This year I finally decided to check my attitude out the door and become more positive. Already this year, I can tell I am working in a totally different way!
    glamglitterandgloss.com

  • What a great post! This was so helpful. Failure has definitely been one of the reasons why I’ve been scared to accomplish anything, but I know it’s something I have to surpass and overcome. Thanks for sharing this!

    http://www.llindatt.blogspot.com

  • Lack of discipline is my biggest one! I really need to sort it out! I want to tone up for my friends wedding and I just keep making excuses and losing motivation so easily! So frustrating!

    Danielle’s Beauty Blog

    • Honestly, a lot of times when it comes to working out, I just force myself to do it. I just put on my workout clothes and do it, trying not to think about it too much. :)

  • I definitely need to work on not being so afraid of failing! xx Lita
    http://www.fancy-notebook.com

  • The good thing about all of these, too, is that they all follow on from each other: learning to embrace failure (in a manner of speaking) will help you so much with overcoming any kind of obsession with needing to be perfect. They all help each other so well, they’re great goals to aim at.

    Saoirse Sterling at XLeptodactylous

  • Fernanda Avila Berntsen

    This is sooo helpful, thank you for sharing! I can definitely relate, especially to chasing perfecion and comparison. Keep up with the great posts!!! xo

  • Yes to all of these! Excuses is a big one for me, a crutch that I need to get rid of. I love that quote, thanks for sharing Paula :)

    Nereyda│ This Girl Is Obsessed

  • missgetaway

    Oh yes yes yes to the Stop Comparing one. I feel like it slows me down so much when I constantly compare my success to others!!

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

  • I could not agree more with all of these… I need to pay attention x

    Zoe Mountford x

  • I really agree with everything. I have habit of comparing myself to others, where they are now etc but everyone goes at a different pace x
    Emma | Emmys Beauty Cave

  • Oh such wise words here! I too compare myself to every body else all the time and you’re right – at the end it just drives us crazy! Really great, motivating post! <3

    xo, Lauren | The Dazzle Guide

  • If I implemented all of these I would definitely be a lot happier. I always think it’s hard when you have to change your way of thinking, like with the comparing to others and always striving for perfection!

    Jodie // Jodie Loue

    • It’s only hard, because you think it is. It’s not easy at the beginning, but once you stop giving crap about others and what they’re doing with their lives, you’ll realize how silly it is to spend so much of your own time, comparing yourself to others, instead of living your own life, working on getting better, growing and learning. :)

  • I’m the personification of everything you’ve said. Faliure is my biggest enemy, but lately I have been trying to see it from another point of view: you’ll never know if you never even try (I think the quote is from a song hahaha).

    xx Cecil // http://www.wednesday19th.blogspot.com

  • Oh man, I can relate to every single thing here. Especially with comparing (feeling like a failure at 26 even though I just graduated college and got engaged despite all of my health issues), fear of failure (I got fired from a graphic design job I had for 2.5 weeks, and I had very bad vibes about the company from the first interview on the phone), and excuses (I’d rather veg out). I’ve been giving myself mantras, like “you have what it takes” “you are strong, talented, etc.” and I know there is the right job out there. Thanks for posting.

    Hannah
    http://floraful.blogspot.com

    • I know how that feels Hannah, but you have so much to be proud of! Failing is the only way to learn and I think that if something doesn’t work out, it’s only because there’s something better out there for you! I’m sure you’ll find something that you love and you’ll do amazing! Sending blessings your way! :)

  • I think comparisson and fear of failing are the worst. It’s really hard not to compare yourself to those that surround you, the same way it’s hard to ignore the fact that there is a possibility you might fail. However, we do need to find a way to overcome these obstacles if we ever want to be able to achieve our goals! x

    Ariadna || RAWR BOWS

    • Look at it this way: why are you wasting time comparing yourself to others, instead of just living your life? I also think that when you see someone doing great things with their life, it’s the universe letting you know that you can do the same with yours ;)

  • Such a fantastic, fantastic post Paula! I think everyone struggles with these in some time of way and amount.This is the year of self reflection for me and I really love posts like this and their role in that. We are our biggest obstacle in accomplishing our dreams.

    Chelsey | http://www.chelseythornton.com

  • Improving my knowledge of my camera and thus the quality of my pictures is my main goal at the moment, but somehow I do all the other stuff first and then there is no time left. I need to sort out my priorities, I guess. And stop chasing perfection.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

    • I know how it feels to run out of the time, constantly haha :) I guess we just need to find time to do the things that are important to us .

  • The Sunday Mode

    Another beautifully written and inspiring post. I can really relate to what you said about comparison and perfectionism especially, both are things I struggle with and honestly it’s a daily battle to try and break free of those bad habits.

    http://www.thesundaymode.blogspot.com.au

    • Thank you so much Julia! It really sounds like constant comparison is a problem for a lot of people. I look at it this way, when I see someone do great, it’s the universe letting me know that I too can accomplish a lot. This is something I always say to my younger brother and sister. :)

  • autumnnwieland

    This was exactly what I needed to hear today, thanks for inspiring!!

  • Your content is always so great, Paula. This post was very inspiring!
    I can really relate to the chasing perfection paragraph and I agree with you that sometimes you just have to make do with what you have and learn from your mistakes.
    http://carolinapage.eu

  • You always give the best advice, advice that genuinely really helps. Loving you!

    Isabelle | http://www.isabellekategm.co.uk

  • Black&White Insider

    I think I may have read this post before, but in reading it again it’s like looking into the mirror.. good to reflect on and actually admit to! :) Great post & loving the website
    http://www.blackandwhiteinsider.com

  • chelsea van egmond

    This was so helpful!