Finding joy in everyday life

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Finding joy in everyday life

As I’m writing this, I think to myself “well.. wait a minute.. is there any other “life” than this, the “everyday life”?

We kind of tend to think so, don’t we? It’s almost like we’re spending majority of our time waiting for something else to happen. We spend A LOT of time waiting. For that Friday to come, for something better to come along, for vacation, for the weekend.

You can spend your entire life, saying things like “I’ll be happy when I [fill in the blank]“. You can spend the rest of your life waiting to start living.

HAVE A GREATFUL HEART

Gratitude is the fastest way to change your life. Thing is, it’s not about “thinking” about the things you want to feel grateful for. It’s about actually feeling it, sort of like seeing those things for the first time. Practicing gratitude, literally changes the way your brain works. As you stimulate neural pathways in your brain through practicing gratitude, they become stronger. Practicing gratitude is just like training your brain to see and notice those constructive themes in your life. Don’t know where to start? Get a gratitude journal and start by writing down five things you feel grateful for, every morning.

LEARN SOMETHING NEW AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE

Find pleasure in learning new things. You are never too old to learn something new, it’s never too late to try something new. Never too late to do something for a very first time. Be a lifelong learner. It can be anything from a new language, to photography, sport, reading or drawing. You might discover a new talent or find passion that you never knew you had. Find something that brings you joy. Something that makes you feel happy, something that will keep you busy and will set your soul on fire. Follow your bliss, every single day. If you haven’t found it, keep searching. There are some things that you can’t learn by taking a class or reading a book. It doesn’t matter if you’re 20, 30, 40 or 50 years old- it’s never too late to start looking.

BE PRESENT

[pullquote width=”300″ float=”left”]“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves – slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future.” – Thich Nhat Hanh[/pullquote]

A lot of us, if not most of us, spend most of our time worrying and wondering about our future, or regretting our past. If you think about it, THIS moment, THIS moment right here is never going to repeat itself. You can never go back on “now”, your “now” will always be here and now, in the present. Whether you’re reading your favorite book, drinking your morning coffee, spending time with your loved ones; do your best to be 100% present. Even if it’s just a regular, Monday night dinner. Notice every smile, taste every single bite, feel every breath, every step, every kiss. Those “regular” days, can feel special and extraordinary. There is something magical about being present- when your mind is free of judgement in every single moment, every single thought. When you don’t worry about the future or stress about the past. If you think about it, all you ever have is now.

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO LIFT YOU HIGHER

Gossip, complaining, nagging and negative thinking- these are things that we all do from time to time. Years ago, things like these didn’t bother me. When it was time to get together with friends, it usually meant that we’d sit together, complain about our lives a little bit and maybe exchange some gossip. Now, I cannot stand being around people who complain all the time. I literally feel my energy levels drop. I noticed the same thing about myself- If I happen to have an outburst of negativity, it bothers me. It doesn’t feel good, it’s like I want to just shake it off. I immediately try to shift my focus into something positive. Whereas for many, many years, I never paid attention to things like that.

Your life is your story, that’s why you should edit it as often as you’d like. You don’t have to feel guilty about cutting someone out of your life if they are a negative influence. It may not always be easy, I know. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, with people who smile a lot and laugh often, people who want to see the good in others.

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FIND SOME TIME JUST FOR YOURSELF

There is nothing wrong with treating yourself, self-love is so very important for your happiness. Practicing a little self-care everyday can help you feel more calm, relaxed. Do something just for yourself. It doesn’t have to be anything huge like full-on spa day, but maybe a 5 minute face mask or a quick run in the park.

LEARN TO LET GO

Let go of things you cannot control, of things (or anything else) that do not serve you. Sometimes, bad and ugly things happen to us, but they always teach us a lesson- take that lesson with you, but let go of the past. Worrying about things that have happened in the past, or things that might happen in the future is a waste of your energy. Learn how to let go of those limiting thoughts, learn how to forgive others, but also yourself. Let go and move on. This is important especially when it comes to those little, stupid things we tend to get very upset about.

BE STILL

[pullquote width=”300″ float=”left”]”Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.”- Lao Tzu[/pullquote]

Listen to your thoughts, feel yourself breathe. You run around all day, working, taking care of others, trying to meet deadlines, making sure all your chores are done. For a few minutes a day, try being still, even if it’s just for one minute. Try not to think about what else needs to get done. When you feel like your life is going by too fast, each day not much different from the other, just take a minute and be still. Listen to the world around you.

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There’s this old joke that I used to hear all the time:

A man is sitting on a train, behind him, his Guardian Angel.

As the man looks out the window, he thinks to himself “I’m so sick of everything. I can’t stand my wife, my boss is an idiot, my job is a joke, I hate my life

The Guardian Angel scratches his head and says “well… these are strange wishes, but what can I do, I must make them come true.

Pay attention to what you focus on, what you think about and what you talk about.

Remember that even the most ordinary of days can end up being the happiest of days.

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  • Love this post Paula. So inspiring… Finding time for myself and meeting positive minded people is the key to me. And of course, when I learn something new or when I feel proud of all my accomplishments…. That makes me enjoy every single day of my life. x
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  • Lovely post! I think it’s so important to keep leaning new things as often as you can! x

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  • Learning new things & learning how to let go certainly always makes me feel so much better. Lovely post <3

    Abigail Alice x

  • This is such a lovely post! I love the idea of a gratitude journal and must get round to keeping one. I also really believe that learning new things is a great way to grow and always discover new parts of yourself xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

  • Some great tips dear, you seem to have so many and really understand yourself. I’m so glad, inspires me that someday I can too. I see posts like these that often have ridiculous and superficial advice, especially not taking into consideration a person’s mental health and how it’s even hard to get out of bed sometimes (that itself is an accomplishment). I’m always trying to learn new things, whether it’s picking up another language or studying a new subject. The gratitude journal is a great idea! Your posts are always so lovely and refreshing, and I’m so glad that you surround yourself with positive people (I do as well). Sending love to you!

    xoxo
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    • Thanks Mika! I’m sure you’ll get there one day. I don’t miss those days when getting out of bed was an accomplishment itself :( It’s really hard when someone tells you “oh, just concentrate on the good” or “stop feeling like this” it’s not a choice and it’s not something that people can just snap out of and not everyone seems to understand that, I do, because I’ve lived it.

      Gratitude journal was honestly life-changing for me. I used to complain about literally everything. Practicing gratitude made me realize how great my life really is. Sending love right back at you! <3

  • These are such great tips! Sometimes it’s hard to be present since some of us are so focused on the past or what may happen in the future.

    Polly
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  • Such a beautiful post <3
    xx
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  • I’m trying to do all of these things. I really miss learning, so I am trying to learn as much as I can about makeup, blogging and social media! I’m also trying to take some time and just do things I want. Great post :)

    JaynieShannon Beauty & Lifestyle

    xx

  • Another beautiful, inspiring post, Paula! I’m waiting for that book that I’m sure you’ll write one day :)

    Just today I was talking to my friend about this kind of subject, that it’s so important to enjoy the life we have, the ‘now’ time. Sure I have dreams and wishes and some days are just more difficult but I try to enjoy the present time because there’s no coming back and I don’t want to live a life waiting for something better, which might never come, instead of appreciating what I have already. x

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    • Aww haha thank you so much Dagmara, you’re so kind and always so supportive your comments always put a smile on my face!

      I’ve spent a lot of years waiting for better things to come, but once you stop and look around you notice so many wonderful things and people you already are surrounded with.

  • Love this, a really nice reflective piece. I’m always working on finding time to be still and practice some self care, this just reaffirmed how important actively making that choice is

    – Natalie
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  • So, so true. All of it. It’s so funny what happens when you practice gratitude. I have a ways to go in making it routine, but the other day I was SLAMMED at work, hating everyone, and I just thought to myself “I am grateful for this job”, and I literally felt lighter right in that moment. I just kept going and all of the negative feelings started to go away (which were soon compounded by something else that made me mad, but progress is progress lol). I LOVE all of these posts that you do as it’s such a great reminder to keep working on myself and this aspect of my mind!

    Katie | http://www.overthemoony.com

    • I still let things get to me sometimes, but yes, progress is progress! :) So happy that you enjoy these posts Katie!

  • Loved reading this post, it was so inspirational! I have been trying to be more positive lately, and I have been in a much better mood! x

    Ariadna || RAWR BOWS

  • I love this post, its so true. Living in the present makes you love little things in your everyday life x

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  • Such a beautiful written post, which once again I find so inspiring to read. I am so guilty of getting caught up with the future and thinking about when this will happen or when I will do this. But it’s so important to enjoy what we have now and living in the moment x

    Beauty with charm

    • Aw thanks Alina, so happy to hear that! I used to ONLY “live” in the future, always thinking where I want to be, not where I am right now. I was missing out on a lot, like enjoying little things even if it’s just a rainy Saturday spent sitting on the couch with my husband watching a movie.

  • Beautiful post as always, Paula. Reading your posts every morning is one of my enjoyment, too ;)

    Selene Addicted

  • Erin Henry

    This is so beautiful! Gratitude is a major one in my opinion. You can have everything or nothing without circumstances changing at all. all that matters is how you see it.
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  • I really enjoyed reading this inspiring post!

  • Learning and trying new things is the one people most often neglect, isn’t it? We find our comfy spot and hold on to it, while just outside true miracles happen :)

  • Great tips. I find that we often just miss the joyful things in life because we’re not paying enough attention. It’s about finding joy in the little moments and the little things and being grateful for them.

  • Really great tips. I’m at a point in my life wherein I’m trying to let go of something that’s so painful that I sometimes find myself ruining my whole day. Anyway, this is a lovely read :)

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    Joyce

  • Yes!!!! We spend so much time wishing for the next big thing that we end up missing out on the joys of everyday life!

  • Phoebida x

    i love this, its so true that sometimes you just need to be present & stop waiting for the next best thing. great post, paula xxx

    phoebe & abida | phoebida.blogspot.co.uk

  • I absolutely love posts like this. I completely agree with trying to learn or do something new every day, there are so many things out there that you could love or could bring you happiness, it makes sense to try out as many things as possible! Brilliant post <3 xxx
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  • Ana Vicioso

    I love this. Sometimes, when I’m down I tend to forget that hardship will always pass.
    Taking one day at a time and being grateful and showing simple gratitude that I am still alive and healthy. I needed to read this to remind myself happy days are ahead. x

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  • I totally agree with you, Paula! I have been practicing each of the points mentioned in your post for about a year now and I must say I feel more at peace and happier within me. I used to get frustrated all the time for various reasons but now it’s as if a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. This is such a great post and a good reminder!

    • It all started with practicing gratitude for me. Everything changed after that. Small things still get to me sometimes, but it’s a process. Thank you Kalieta, so glad you liked this post!

      • Yes, I don’t think it’s possible to be completely immune to things, but it’s good to be able to take a step back and decide how we would react when confronted to a certain situation. I find that gratitude really helps getting started on the process of a better -happier life!

  • The Gossip Darling

    Love this!

    XO

  • Lee

    Oh, I love this post. Having a grateful heart is important, it’s annoying that some people don’t say thank you to the littlest things in life. Always have a clean, happy heart and just do good to everyone.

    Lee | http://www.thatbellemakeup.co.uk

  • Yes! Having a grateful heart is so important. Also something to keep at the forefront of our minds around the busy holidays for sure!

    xo, mikéla / simplydavelyn.com

  • Tiffany Tales

    Such a lovely post and gorgeous photos x

    Tiffany Tales | Lifestyle & Beauty

  • Like your layouts pictures. Thank you
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