How to chase your dreams

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Most of us go through life, waiting for something to happen.

Sure, we dream. We close our eyes, we see ourselves living the life we always wanted to live, doing things we always wanted to do. For some, it’s staying at home and raising their children. For others, it’s having a flourishing career. Or traveling the world. For me, it’s being able to retire at a relatively young age, live on a beautiful farm with my husband and rescue senior dogs.

Well… we then open our eyes and think “dreams are for stupid and naive“- and that’s where it all begins.

YOUR ATTITUDE

How often do you hear someone (perhaps even yourself) say “I really want to _______, but I know that I will never be able to do it because_______” or “it’s easy for her/him to say/do, I never had that opportunity”. It doesn’t matter how many supportive people you have in your corner, if that’s the type of attitude you have, you will never get to where you want in life. Dream chaser is someone who believes in the impossible, someone who doesn’t make excuses.

[pullquote width=”300″ float=”left”]Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t- you’re right. ~Henry Ford[/pullquote]

You don’t see successful people say things like “well… I might try this, but what’s the point, it won’t work anyway.” If you want to learn more about believing in yourself, look at athletes. Picturing themselves at a finish line is something that helps them win; it’s what helps them get up and recover after an injury or any other major setback. You don’t see them give up often.

It doesn’t matter if your dream is to have an amazing career, start a family, find a partner or to excel at something like sport- you need to believe that you are capable of making your dreams become a reality. You can’t let things like your past experiences or your age stop you from going after the things you want.

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SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE

First, you need to believe in yourself.  Once you start surrounding yourself with people who are loving, supportive and encouraging, you start believing in yourself even more. Surround yourself with people who have that good, contagious energy. I had some friends in the past who were encouraging, in a very discouraging way. They’d say things like “well, you can try going for it, but I doubt you’ll get anywhere, but you know, good luck.” Those are the kinds of things that would discourage me from talking about my plans, or some things I want to accomplish. If you can’t talk dreams with your friends, how can you really support and encourage one another?

STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Stepping out of your comfort zone is scary and it can even be paralyzing at times. I’ve dealt with anxiety for years and sometimes even the smallest things can be terrifying for me. The more I push myself though, the more I put myself in situations where I know I won’t have control, as I try more and more new things, I grow. I learn new things about myself and I realize that feeling this fear is what can help me become fearless.

[pullquote width=”300″ float=”left”]Don’t become something just because someone else wants you to, or because it’s easy; you won’t be happy. You have to do what you really, really, really, really want to do, even if it scares the sh*t out of you. ~Kristen Wiig [/pullquote]

We are creatures of comfort- there’s no denying that- and if we had it our way, we’d probably never leave our comfort zone, where fear or anxiety is a rare guest. Challenging and pushing yourself past your fears, is the only thing that can make you grow.  Dream chasers step out of their comfort zone on a regular basis- it’s how they become more creative and confident. It’s also what can help you feel inspired again, after you’ve been “stuck”  for a while. Sometimes, you might not even know that you have passion for something, until you try it.

TO CHASE YOUR DREAMS YOU NEED TO KEEP GOING, NO MATTER WHAT

Whatever it is you’re after in life, you can’t be discouraged easily. If going after what you want was easy, then everyone you know would probably be living their dream life. Chasing your dreams isn’t always easy. Failing isn’t easy. Pushing yourself through tough times isn’t easy. It’s exactly why not everyone is willing to do what it takes to live out their dreams. But if you want to chase your dreams, you pick yourself up and try again. Most people see fear and challenges as obstacles and they tend to run away from them. Dream chasers interpret fear as a challenge itself, an opportunity; they don’t ask “what’s the worst thing that could happen?” they ask “what’s the best thing that could happen?”

DON’T CONCERN YOURSELVES WITH WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING

In the age when social media seem to have taken over our lives, it’s very easy to start comparing yourself to others- which can often lead to you feeling discouraged. Chase your dreams- realize that we all have our own and unique journey. Be so busy working on your own grass, that you don’t have time to notice someone else’s might be greener. This won’t always be easy- especially when sometimes it seems that everyone’s doing great things and moving forward in life, while you’re at a standstill. Rather than feeling bad or envious and pushing those things or experiences away, think of it this way: it’s the universe (or God, or “life” whatever you’d like to call it) showing you that it can be done, that it is possible. You deserve to have amazing things, people and experiences in your life, just as much as anyone else.

Another very important thing I’ve learned? You can’t be afraid to fail- and this might be the toughest part. Some of the best lessons you’ll ever learn, will come from your failures.

Dreaming, but not doing, is just wishing. You can’t wait for the perfect moment or opportunity. You can’t wait for things to just “happen”. Act on your desires and chase your dreams, even if it means taking very small steps, one day at a time.

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  • Emmalisa Tilli

    This was so timely for me! Lately I have been thinking about getting a degree in either Bachelor of Arts (ancient history), English language or cultural heritage. I thought I wasn’t intellectual enough, so I didn’t enrol. Currently I am doing library and information services, but it’s just a certificate 3. I want to get that done, then go for it! I was holding back but I have dreams to travel Europe and study genealogy because I have been learning more and more about my ancestors and am becoming more and more fascinated! I dream also of writing a book! So, hopefully if I do do those studies I may have more to offer and share with the world!

    Thanks for a great post!

    ❤️

    • I spent a lot of time and wasted a lot of money as a pre-med student even though I knew it wasn’t for me. I was too afraid to change my major because I didn’t want to disappoint my family and now I really wish I followed my heart sooner. If you know what it is that you want to do, go for it and don’t ever doubt yourself!! If it’s important to you, you will find a way and I’m sure that you’ll do amazing.

      I think you have already done one of the most important things: you know what you want to do in life- so many of us struggle with finding something that we love. I’m sure you’ll do amazing in anything you decide to do! :)

      • Emmalisa Tilli

        Thankyou SOOOO much for that!!!! and you are so right…. I feel a sense of accomplishment already from HAVING a blog, so I just need to follow through, and do what I can!!!

        Thanks again for your kind words – it REALLY helped!!!!!!

  • I’m so afraid of failure and such a perfectionist that sometimes I don’t try. I need to try, try, try new things out more often!
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  • Great advice! I love stepping outside of my comfort zone, I think it’s how I grow best!

    Abigail Alice x

  • Man, this is a great post and looking for jobs in NYC at the moment means that I really need this sort of pick me up. I’ve loved being in NYC, but all my wonderfully positive and supportive people are back in the UK which makes it hard sometimes. Thanks!

    http://www.englishgirlinnewyork.org

    • Aw thank you! It can be hard sometimes doing it on your own, but just the thought that you have “your people” there for you, even if it’s far away, is a great feeling.

  • Another great post! You put this into words so well! I had an idea for a post along these lines and I started writing it and couldn’t get it down how I wanted it to. Time to revisit!!

    I’m a HUGE daydreamer about what I want in my life and I’m so happy to have gotten to be such great friends with two people I work with that we all daydream together all day long. We all support each other’s endeavors 100% and bounce ideas off each other. It’s so wonderful. Having that support system, and people who actually understand what you’re reaching for, it so wonderful. My boyfriend supports me, but I don’t feel like I can always bounce things off of him like I can my friends. It’s great to have all sorts of different people you can go to for different support!

    And I LOVE your dream! I always felt like if I won the lottery, I would want to buy a big house and fill it with cats from shelters so they don’t get killed. Houses full of animals! :)

    Katie | http://www.overthemoony.com

    • Thank you Katie! I feel like with some ideas for a post, I need to let them “simmer” a bit, before sitting down to write them, so you might want to revisit it again! :)

      It’s so amazing, being surrounded by other dreamers! Super happy for you that you have such great friends, it can make the biggest difference :)

      Yes! Dogs, cats (my husband is allergic, but science will catch up lol) cows and especially GOATS haha ;) Having a goat is one of my life-long dreams :)

  • These are great tips, so inspiring! x

    http://emmaboughtwhat.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Manon

    Thanks for this very good post! It really is on point with my situation at the moment! I have the possibility to make my passion my job. Thing is, since I decided to go for it and learn this job, nothing is going on plan. And when I say nothing I mean it! But I am still fighting for this dream job and I will continue to do so until I get it!

    This post is one of those post that makes you rethink your life with more positivity and motivation, I will keep it in my favs for those moments when my seft-confidence need a little boost!

    • Thank you so much Manon! Going after what you want isn’t always easy, like I said before, if it was, then everyone would be doing it. It takes time and sacrifice, but it will all eventually pay off, big time.

      It’s something that I always tell myself. There are days when I want to give up on everything and settle, but I also don’t want to live with regret and grow old, wishing I fought for my dreams a little harder.

  • This post is so helpful. I need to step out of my comfort zone, I’m always doing the same routine and sometimes I need to make a change in order for me to reach my dreams.

    Perfect Shade of Mauve

  • These tips are brilliant. There’s so much I want to do but never get round to doing it due to self belief or whatever!

  • Very inspirational! It’s true, in order to really get what you want you just have to step out of your comfort zone every once in a while.

  • Lots of really inspirational and motivating tips in this post, thank you for putting it together for us to read Paula :)
    – Ambar x
    http://www.herlittleloves.co.uk
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  • I love it how much thought and effort you put into every post. Either you’ll post very helpful blogging tutorials or life advice, which I find brilliant. Thanks for writing such an awesome blog Paula! <3

    Laura xx Laurantaina Beauty Blog

  • Laura Mareno

    This is really well written! And so inspirational! Sometimes you just need to hear that! thanks for sharing:D

    https://laurasavenue.blogspot.de/

  • Zoe Mack

    Love this! Thanks for sharing

    zoemack.com

  • Another inspiring post dear. Thank you! xo

    xo, mikéla / simplydavelyn.com

  • This was such an inspirational post, loved reading it!

    Ariadna || RAWR BOWS

  • Really needed this post atm such a thoughtful and inspirational post! hoping this can get me out of my rut and start pursuing my dreams

    Ronnie
    http://www.veronicabizzarri.blogspot.co.uk
    xx

  • Really great post thank you. What I’m struggling with is knowing which dreams to pursue or what my true dreams are, finding where you want to be is half of the battle

    – Natalie
    http://www.workovereasy.com

  • Sigute

    Such good reminders! I find having a strong support system is what makes the scary journey into a fun one! Being able to share the highs and lows with non judging and supportive friends. :)

    http://www.therichnorm.com

  • Oui In France

    Love this! It’s so easy for others to be armchair critics and even if they have good intentions, the overall message is unsupportive. Great advice!

  • So inspirational! Sharing this with my siblings! I totally agree – not everyone can go for the life they truly want because it is indeed, hard work! But so worth it if you try! :) Happy 2017!

    Lisa
    http://www.theeverydayelevated.com