10 ways to de-stress after a bad day


I wish that  keeping my vibes high and positive was always easy, but the truth is, sometimes even something really small can ruin your day.

So… how do you deal with it? How do you de-stress and turn a bad day into a good one?

First thing’s first….


I remember when during one of my Philosophy classes in college our professor asked the class how many of us value our own time and love being alone once in a while. Everyone raised their hands. “Okay, keep your hands up, now, how many of you turn off your cell phone during the day, on regular basis?” Only about one quarter of class kept their hands up, my professor smiled. We have become so dependent on technology and when you aren’t having the best day, constantly checking your phone especially when it comes to social media- can frustrate you even further (because, let’s face it, we all sometimes play the “comparison” game and when you’re sitting in your kitchen, crying because you had a crappy day, you don’t need to see someone else having a blast in Belize, sipping on mimosas). Disconnecting once a while can do wonders. Had a bad day? Make yourself unavailable to the world.



If you have time, take a long, hot bath. Magnesium and Salt baths work great as a remedy for stress. Magnesium helps relax your muscles- and when you’re stressed out those can be very tense. Add a few drops of your favorite bath oil to your bath, burn your favorite candle, read a magazine, or just relax (but don’t fall asleep! :) ). I also like to bring a big bowl of fresh fruit with me when taking a bath- it always feels great to snack on something healthy. If you’re anything like me, chances are you’re way too busy to treat yourself to a long bath on regular basis, that’s why when you do it once in a while, it feels so relaxing.


When you get home after a tough day, working out is probably the last thing you feel like doing- but trust me, it does wonders when it comes to stress. What I do immediately after getting home is take off my makeup, change into my workout clothes, put on one of my Insanity DVDs and workout for about 40 minutes. I basically force myself to exercise because I know how much better I will feel afterwards. A nice run in a fresh air is great too. Physical activity produces endorphins- chemicals in your brain that act as natural painkillers and also improve your sleep and reduce stress levels.


Get out of your house, feel the fresh air. Take deep breaths, maybe listen to some music and just walk it out.


I always try to be as positive as possible and control my thoughts and feelings as much as I can. Sometimes, however, it doesn’t matter how hard you try to stay positive- your day just turns to sh*t and you find yourself feeling angry and frustrated. While I don’t like to complain, sometimes all you need to do is express your feelings. I either talk to someone close, tell them just how angry I am and then I let it go or I write my feelings down on a piece of paper. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone about your feelings, express them on a piece of paper, read what you wrote once, and then rip it up and throw it away. Let go of that anger and frustration and move on.


I mean, come on, is there anything better than this? Burn your favorite candle, cuddle up with your favorite blanked and read while sipping on your favorite tea.


If your space is messy, you will find it difficult to relax and unwind after a long day. If the weather permits, open up some windows, make sure that your sink is empty, clean up your rooms, bathroom, kitchen. After you’re done, it will feel amazing to just sit back and relax. Cleaning is also a good distraction for when your mind is racing, you feel stressed and don’t know what to do with all that excess energy.

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I’m not talking about spending a fortune on a new pair of shoes, but treating yourself to something small. For me, it’s either a cup of really good coffee (and since I don’t drink coffee everyday, it always feels like a little treat) or some veggie sushi from my favorite place. Know that it’s okay to treat yourself to a little something once in a while- and there is no need to feel guilty about it. How often do you show yourself love? It’s something that’s crucial on those days when you feel stressed- learn to forgive yourself and others.


Ok, so while I love to cook, I am not much of a baker. But I noticed that whenever I have a horrible day, I always feel like making banana bread. Weird, right? But you know what? It works. I don’t know if it’s the intense banana mushing or the smell of cinnamon, nutmeg and coconut oil that fills the house as the bread sits in the oven, but it does wonders for my soul. Now, whenever I’m having a bad day, first thing that comes to my mind is “do we have ripe bananas at home?” If you want to try this for yourself, check out my recipe for Vegan Banana Bread right here (also known as “the best banana bread you’ll ever make” :) ).


If you haven’t tried mediating yet, you’re missing out. There’s an old Zen saying that goes “you should meditate for 20 minutes a day, unless you’re too busy; then you should meditate for an hour”. Not only does mediating help with stress, but also makes you feel calm, relaxed, happy. If you’re new to this I highly recommend you download these free guided meditations from Gabby’s blog right here.

How do you like to unwind after a long, tough day?

  • Great tips. I love meditating every day to sneak in some zen-ness! Also baths, and turning your phone off feels amazing!


  • I definitely have a tendency to flick through snapchat and instagram feeds when I’m having a crappy day – they always make me feel so much worse!! Will definitely try and switch off my phone and occupy myself through other means in the future.


  • Love this post! So many great ideas to de-stress. My favorite thing to do is clean, it’s amazing how much clearer your mind can be after tidying a little bit!

    Becky, xx // http://undertheseabeauty.blogspot.ca/

  • Autumn Dickens

    I love going for a workout and taking long baths when I’m stressed. It’s the best feeling ever. Love these tips. Thanks!


  • Such a great tips! Especially working out, having a bath and turning off your phone. When I have a bad day I go out, I grab my Ipod, turned off my phone go out for a run and when I come back I have a long bath and then I feel fresh!


  • The cell phone one is such a good idea! I always love when we go up to our cabin in the mountains and have no cell service, it’s so relaxing not to feel like I have to be connected online all the time. I definitely need to incorporate that same thing into my life more often! Great tips Paula! XO -Kim

  • I need to learn to try and turn my phone off for at least an hour a day, i end up just scrolling on it for no reason. After a bad day i love to turn the music up loud and relax.
    Emmy | Emmys Beauty Cave | Bloglovin

  • I love this post! I really need to be better about shutting my phone off from time to time- thanks for these tips!


  • Seriosuly I don’t remember when was the last time I turned off my phone during the day, it must have been ages. We are so hooked to technology that having the phone off sounds kinda scary :) Baking helps me relax, I tend to do it a lot when I’m stressed then I can treat myself, so it is a win win situation!

    Ela BellaWorld

  • Great post! I love having ME time and relaxing in the bath. And of course, treating myself lol… I like doing it all the time :) .

  • Yiotou_La

    I love taking long baths after a stressful day, and also I noticed that cleaning the house takes my mind away from my problems and I always enjoy it much more afterwards! Thanks for sharing this :)

  • Perfect tips – I’m terrible at switching my phone off so recently wrote a five ways to log off post myself :) love your other ideas too x

  • Another great helpful post! Love this, definitely will come back to this post whenever I have a bad day! :)


  • I’m very bad about the phone thing… it seems like when I’m having a bad day I’m on my phone more & it only makes me feel worse in the end. It’s a habit I’ve gotta break! thanks for these tips :)

  • Can’t beat a good bath right? I was feeling so stressed yesterday and havent had a bath in ages so just decided to have one right then and it did wonders to relax me!

    Jasmin Charlotte

  • These are such great tips! I never thought about turning my phone off after a bad day, but it’s such a great idea!

    xo, Liz


  • Thanks for this post. I find writing things down really helps! xo

  • Love these! A combination of meditation and yoga always does wonders for me after a hard day, especially when I do them right before bed. Also, I’m very much looking forward to making that vegan banana bread! Yum!


  • I love these tips! I always love to clean when I’m stressed (I’m a weirdo like that), or redecorate. It really helps me chill out and use my energy positively. PS. That avocado sushi looks TO DIE FOR! Do you have any sushi recipes? I think that will be my next kitchen conquer x

    Margarita Chi | MARGARITACHI.CO

    • I love cleaning when I’m stressed too- it always calms me down :) Ohh hehe that sushi is just brown rice with avo :) All I go for these days is brown rice and avo or cucumber, I have to try some other veggie combos!

  • Whenever I find myself in a bad mood or stressed, I always clean too! It takes my mind off whatever I’m thinking about and makes me feel better after a little while – and my house ends up nice and tidy too! x


  • I need to learn how to forget about my phone and focus on myself, I want to start doing meditation as it seems to be very beneficial! x

    Ariadna || RAWR BOWS

  • I definitely need to work on turning off my phone. My defense mechanism when I’m having a rough day is to zone out into social media land, but in reality it just makes me more stressed because I start comparing and stressing out about not being good enough. Thanks Paula, awesome tips as always. <3


    • It definitely feels amazing to disconnect from everything once in a while. You start paying attention to other things in life and realize just how awesome they are ;)

  • Fab tips! Working out definitely does it for me :)

    Jess xo | The Indigo Hours

  • I love delving myself into a good book along with some calming music it’s just the best…

    Asia xo

  • The Sunday Mode

    I love to just zone out and ‘treat myself,’ usually by watching a TV show I really love. I realise that makes me sound like a real grandma but Film/TV has always played a huge role in my life so watching things and escaping to other worlds makes me feel so much better.


  • Reading a book works for me. Or putting on my headphones and listening to my favourite songs, basically retreating to my own little bubble for a while. Cleaning helps too, it helps me feel like at least I’m in control of one aspect of my life.

  • I love cleaning when I’m stressed – it feels like cleaning an exterior space, clears up the internal stress! Very useful tips – thank you for sharing :)
    – Ambar x

  • Very good tips! I always clean/organize when I’m stressed! We don’t own a bathtub, but I think I would love to take a bath to de-stress too xD

    Rosie’s Life

  • There’s nothing more relaxing than a nice hot bath! And yes, expressing your frustration and just letting it all out is so important! I wish my husband would realize that… He NEVER talks which only makes his frustration worse.

    • Ahhh men… they’re usually not much of talkers haha. I can always tell when something is bothering my husband even before he says anything haha :)

  • All such great suggestions. Bookmarking this post!
    Kelly xx

  • I love these tips! I love to clean, to walk, to write and listen to music when I had a bad day.

  • So funny that you mentioned cleaning, because when I am annoyed that’s the one thing I always start doing… cleaning my house like a mad woman haha. I have been loving the gym & my fitness classes lately for de-stressing. Usually I’d be the laziest person ever but can’t believe how good I feel after a good gym session x

    Beauty with charm

    • Haha that’s funny because I tend to do the same thing! Right? That right-after-a-workout feeling is pretty amazing!

  • Oh yes, shopping yea perfect for de-stressing, lol! I’m with you on the cleaning and talking to someone when I had a tough day or difficult situations to deal with. x

    Mummy’s Beauty Corner

  • The Gossip Darling

    Going on a long run and then taking a long bubble bath afterwards is my favorite way to de-stress!

    Mel | http://www.thegossipdarling.com

  • I love taking long baths and my dog for walks when I need to de-stress. Then sometimes when it all just gets a bit too much I just like to lay on top of my bed, no tv on or anything and just lay there for a good 10 minutes of quiet time :) xx


  • Another great post. Thanks for the advice. I like to take a hot bath and eat and read and sleep. Usually in that order

  • Great post :) This is basically what I do to relax ! I don’t turn off my phone but I put it on “do not disturb” mode which is quite the same and if someone as a very important thing to tell me they just have to call me twice and it will ring and I can still let my phone away for a while, which so necessary for me !
    I love to treat myself with small things too :) good food or a new book … and a clean space is such a therapy, to me !
    I just need to workout urgh … lazy butt…

    • Thanks Camille! I think that treating myself to some good food is one of my favorite things haha :) I also love trying out new recipes and spending hours in the kitchen, it’s so relaxing to me :)

  • A long hot shower, a good book or audiobook or workout out are my favorite stress relievers. And yes, sometimes you just have to put your phone on silent!

    Nereyda│ This Girl Is Obsessed

  • Fresh air, a run and a hot shower are essentials to staying calm and work out that stress! Life is so crazy and its easy to feel like its only happening to you but to take a step back and realize that someone out there has it worse really helps to put my small problems into perspective. Sending positive vibes to everyone! xoxo

  • My best de-stressing method is cleaning!


  • Love this methods! I think taking a walk is really important! Cleaning also gets you out of your head.
    – Belen from A Hint of Life

  • Natalie Redman

    A hot bubble bath is my idea of relaxing, also popping on a refreshing face mask whilst I’m in the bath is fabulous.

    Thanks for sharing!