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10 Ways to Feel Better When You’re Stuck in a Rut



It’s Friday afternoon, right around 3 o’clock, I’m staring at my laptop screen. I half-forgot what I had to do, and I half don’t-feel-like-doing-it. I’m stuck.

Ever have those days when nothing major happens, it’s just an ordinary day, but all of the sudden you starting feeling uninspired and find yourself being stuck in a rut?

I love it when there’s a lot of excitement in my life. I love it when there’s a lot happening, I love having fun and good things to look forward to. Sometimes, however, things can get a little quiet. A little calm, normal… ordinary.

So how do you make yourself feel better and how do you transform those “ordinary” days into “extraordinary” and exciting ones?


When was the last time you did something for the first time? Something fun and free? Try something new, something you’ve never done before- this is one of the quickest ways of getting out of a rut. You’ll feel excited and inspired again- maybe there’s something you always wanted to do, like taking a cooking or dance class?


Grab a book, a bottle of water and go to the park. Go for a bike ride. Have a dog? Take him for a hike. Go for a run. Get out of the house and spend some time in fresh air. Forget about all of your chores and responsibilities for a few minutes and just breathe.


Whenever you feel stuck in a rut, chances are you start doubting yourself. You might start comparing yourself to others, doubting your journey and wondering if your hard work is ever going to pay off. Well stop that right now! Find a few positive affirmations that you love, write them down and repeat them over and over again. Instead of telling yourself “I’m stuck, I don’t know what to do, this sucks.” tell yourself “I am unique, nothing can replace me“. “I am meant to have an amazing life!” If you’ve never used affirmations before, it might feel a little silly at first, but trust me, it works.


Nothing makes me feel better than a good, exhausting workout session- especially on those days when it’s the last thing on my mind. Sometimes I have to literally force myself to workout, but once I’m done, I always feel SO much better.  Go for a little run, hit the gym and use that excess energy/frustration to fuel your workout.


Do your hair, put on some makeup (even if it’s just lipstick), give yourself a mani/pedi, wear a cute outfit and look your best for a day. This will give you a little boost of confidence


When you’re feeling stuck in a rut, you’re much more likely to start playing the comparison game. Disconnect from social media for a day- turn off your phone when you get home, read a book, get rid of all the noise.


Take someone close to dinner- your mom, sister, friend, your partner- and talk it out. Better yet, throw a little mid-week dinner party and invite everyone- and hey, wine and pizza count as a dinner party. We all find ourselves being so busy these days; when was last time you grabbed lunch with someone you love, in the middle of the week? This also includes yourself! Sometimes you may not have that special someone, or they may not be available- take yourself out on a date, then! This is exactly what I did last week- although I didn’t technically go “out.”  Having struggled with depression in the past, I sometimes feel those old feelings and thoughts creeping back in and I’ve taught myself to recognize them. So when I started feeling a little down last week I knew that I had to do something about it because sleeping for 12 hours isn’t going to solve anything. Knowing that my husband was working late that day, I went to the grocery store, bought a bunch of magazines, some food, a bone for my dog and went home. I made myself an epic veggie bowl, some spearmint tea put on some music, gave my dog the bone and we chilled in our kitchen. I ate, browsed through magazines while Blu chewed on his bone, getting up every five minutes, making sure I didn’t drop any food. By the time my husband got home, I was feeling better. Also, if you have a dog hug the crap out of him- this is also an instant pick-me-up.


Some of us have the ability to find inspiration and motivation within ourselves and some of us need that little extra push. When you feel that “blah” feeling coming, read an inspiring book or watch something inspiring like one of these 11 Ted Talks to Watch When You’re Stuck in a Rut.


Do something fun, something different from your usual routine. If every single one of your days looks exactly the same, finding excitement can be difficult. I myself am a creature of habit, I love being in control and get a little annoyed at any changes in my schedule or routine. Sometimes, though, I just feel this huge need to mix things up a little- and whenever I start feeling “stuck”, this is one of the first things I do.


Sometimes, all you need to feel better, is to take a little break. Allow yourself one day to feel “sorry” for yourself, come up with a plan, do something relaxing and then get back on track.


When you don’t have anything exciting happen in your life for a while, when you don’t have much to look forward to or when something that you’ve been working on for a very long time isn’t brining results you’ve hoped for, it’s easy to suddenly start feeling “stuck”.

You can wait for those feelings to pass, or you can take charge of them and bring some excitement in your life. Realize that you don’t have to depend on some special event or project to give you something to look forward to.



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    March 22, 2016 at 9:30 am

    I’d add: go for a walk to that one.

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      Paula @
      March 22, 2016 at 9:06 pm

      That’s kind of what I meant when I talked about getting outside, but yes!! Especially long walks are great for clearing your mind :)

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    March 22, 2016 at 10:11 am

    Great tips, I needed this today! Thank you!

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    Missy Quigley
    March 22, 2016 at 10:48 am

    These are such great tips, and I can’t wait to watch those Ted talks!

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    Emily-Beatrice Marsh
    March 22, 2016 at 10:53 am

    Some great idea’s here! If i’m going through something a bit crap I love going on long walks down to the beach, I take a little note pad and write down all my negative feelings in it and then when I close the book it’s like closing my mind on those thoughts and feelings, knowing that I’ve got them off my chest. If I need to get out the house and get anger out I always head to the gym. It’s my safe place!

    Lovely post

    Em | beautyandbullshitt x

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      Paula @
      March 22, 2016 at 9:05 pm

      That sounds heavenly! I wish I lived near the beach, but it’s about a two hour drive for me :) I do love just getting outside, it always makes me feel so much better. Working out is sooo good, too- especially when you can get a really good, intense workout in :)

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    March 22, 2016 at 11:55 am

    Love this, thank you for sharing! I think for me the thing that helps me most when I’m in a rut is to just disconnet & go on a walk or like you said get lost in a good book. Definitely agree with everything you’ve mentioned here :) Have a great week x

    Sara / AboutLittleThiings

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    Charlotte Burns
    March 22, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    I have been stuck in a rut for so long now! Definitely going to try out all of the things you’ve listed here as I know they will help, lots of things I hadn’t even considered so thanks for sharing them!! :) xx

    Charlotte | Just Charlotte

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    Carina Vardie
    March 22, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    I love working out and getting outside when I’m stuck in a rut. It would be nice also to get outside my comfort zone, but I struggle with this one. Awesome post and advice!


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    March 22, 2016 at 3:11 pm

    I definitely know this feeling! It’s so hard to mix it up when there are so many demands on our time, but there are things we can all do. Thanks for the tips!

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    Ambar Syed
    March 22, 2016 at 4:25 pm

    These are some lovely ideas – it’s so easy to get stuck in a rut, I think taking time to switch things up is so important!
    – Ambar x

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    March 22, 2016 at 4:43 pm

    I actually needed to read this today, thank you ! Those are great tips (and I reallyyy need to work out again.. it helps so much with negativ thoughts and many other things) xx

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    March 22, 2016 at 5:12 pm

    Such great ideas! Self talk can feel a bit stupid but you begin to believe what you’re saying and suddenly think much more positively :)

    Saved for those rut days!
    Ami x

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    Nereyda Gonzalez
    March 22, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    Never underestimate the boost doing your hair or makeup can give you. Even if I don’t go somewhere, I still like doing my makeup, even if it’s at 7-8pm and I’m gonna wash it off in a few hours anyway :)

    Nereyda│ This Girl Is Obsessed

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    Dara - Champagneinateacup
    March 22, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    Some really great tips

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    This is the life Blog
    March 22, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    This! Exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. Thanks for the great tips! Off to find something new to try :)

    This is the Life!

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    Rachel Shnayder
    March 22, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    Such a lovely post! I tend to feel this way on both extremes–when there isn’t enough going on and when there is TOO much going on like now! I wish I had a dog to give a nice hug to :)

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    March 22, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    Your posts are always the best! This is just what I needed. The last months have been mentally exhausting for me and I’ve felt a bit stuck. I’ll give this list a try, esp. the positive reaffirmations and the try something new!

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      Paula @
      March 25, 2016 at 8:01 pm

      Aww thank you so much Chrissie!! I hope you’re doing better now, remember not to be too hard on yourself! It’s the tough times that make us appreciate the good ones ;)

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    March 22, 2016 at 8:52 pm

    Great tips Paula! I am putting those Ted Talks on my watch-list, I’m always looking for inspiring talks that I can listen to when I’m walking to work xx

    Margarita Chi | MARGARITACHI.CO

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    March 23, 2016 at 2:54 am

    I love this post. Great tips they come on a right moment for me!

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    Jacquard Flower
    March 23, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Thanks for the inspiration. I can certainly relate to this myself. Gemma x

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    Dagmara Klich
    March 23, 2016 at 8:27 am

    Taking a little break from whatever I’m doing and feeling uninspired definitely helps. And I find planning something exciting, like holidays or even day out makes me feel better and suddenly full of energy :) x

    Mummy’s Beauty Corner

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    March 23, 2016 at 9:07 am

    Thanks so much for sharing this, I sometimes forget how important all of these tips are. PS Can I ask you something privately blog-related? If yes, can you tell me where to contact you? Thanks. Have a lovely day! xo

    Klaudia //

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    The Sunday Mode
    March 23, 2016 at 9:07 pm

    I’m guilty of loving my daily routines a little too much sometimes so I can fall into those ruts. Workouts really help me to feel better though, like you sometimes I sort of have to force myself to get moving but I always feel better afterwards and think it was worth it. Even if my pyjamas were really comfortable…haha

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    March 24, 2016 at 7:16 am

    Loving these tips, I need to start reading some positive affirmations. I’ve been meaning to finish reading girl boss but haven’t had the chance to. I need to also start changing up my routine, sometimes I feel like I need a change.

    Perfect Shade of Mauve

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    March 25, 2016 at 6:25 pm

    Hey Paula
    This was so amazing and inspiring to read!! I absolutely love your blog and this post! :) I have to remember this for the situations when I’m Feeling uselesss and unproductive! Great ideas! xxx

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      Paula @
      March 25, 2016 at 7:58 pm

      Aww thank you so much!! Never feel useless! It’s okay to not do anything for a day and be a little lazy once in a while, if you’re feeling a little down :)

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    April 2, 2016 at 8:54 am

    Awesome list! I particularly like look your best and work it out, because that’s what I do when I’m stuck! And that works for me :) Might try the positive affirmations next :)

    Cj | From Manila with Love : Beauty, Life & Feminism

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