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8 Ways to Feel Happier, Right Now

8 Ways to Be Happier Right Now

Sometimes, the commitments you make to yourself can be quite difficult to enforce. This is especially true if we’re talking about changing life-long habits.

When it comes down to it, if you want to feel happier you have to learn to refocus your thoughts on positive things and aspects of your life. What do you focus on or think about, most of the time? If you feel worried or anxious, you’re probably thinking about something negative. If you feel unhappy, you’re probably focusing on things you don’t want to happen (or have happened). As you hold onto those thoughts, scenarios or events, you eventually start to see them as your “reality.” As you constantly replay them in your mind, you end up subconsciously accepting them. 

The key to feeling happier is controlling that focus and not allowing those negative loops to take over. This is what we mean when we say that “happiness has to come from within.” A thought that’s very cliché, yes, but true nonetheless. You have to guard that subconscious mind and pay attention to the information you feed it. There isn’t just one, simple way to do it. Instead, it’s something that requires developing new habits, willingness to enforce them on a regular basis, and, of course, commitment.


8 Ways to Feel Happier Right Now


Gratitude can be one of the fastest ways to change your outlook on life. I’ve always considered myself a grateful person. It wasn’t until I started a daily gratitude practice (it all began with this book) that I noticed just how much I often took for granted. Even though I believed myself to be grateful, I still often complained or felt bothered by a lot of those “first world problems,” as we like to call them.

Be grateful for all the beautiful things in life, the things that make your life easier. Be grateful for your health, your family, all the way to down to things like running water. When you pay attention to all the good things in your life and let yourself to feel truly thankful for them, you notice more and more things that make your life beautiful and fun. You stop paying attention to everything that your life lacks. Gratitude helped me get through some of the most difficult times, times when I felt lost, broken and hopeless. I wanted things to change but felt hopeless. I realized that you can’t be ungrateful and expect things to change or improve. Appreciate all the good things and people in your life and always make sure to return the kindness that comes your way.


I find great pleasure in learning new things. Having suffered from anxiety means that I’ve lived somewhat of a “sheltered” life for a long while. I didn’t like trying new things, I didn’t like facing any challenges, I didn’t like leaving my comfort zone (ya duh, it’s so warm and cozy in there) and frankly, I didn’t even like leaving my house.

Be a lifelong learner. Remember that you are never too old to learn something new, it is never too late.

It can be anything from a new language, cooking, photography, sport, reading, learning to play the guitar- anything that you think you might like. This is also a great way to get yourself out of a rut or find some inspiration whenever you feel that your life is lacking creativity.


This goes both for things like tidying up your room/office/house, and your mind. Identify the things in your life that don’t serve you, and simply eliminate them. This will create more space and time for happiness, for doing the things you love. Create more time for appreciating every little thing in your life like spending time with your child, having dinner with your loved one, enjoying your morning tea, etc. The same goes for tackling all the clutter in your space. Clean up your closet, your kitchen cabinets or your office desk.

Get rid of everything you no longer need- a lot of this “stuff” can always be re-purposed, donated or recycled. I feel great every time after I clean up all the papers that have been piling up on my desk, or after cleaning up my closet and donating old clothes that I no longer need. I always feel incredibly relaxed, happy and organized after my de-cluttering sessions (which I do often, because, unfortunately, I do have some hoarding tendencies, although I have to say I’ve gotten much better over the last couple of years).


If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.” Masaru Emoto
Many of us, if not most of us, spend a good amount of our time worrying and wondering about our future or regretting and re-living our past. As cliché as it may come across, only when you live for the moment, is when you can experience true joy and feel happier.

If you think about it, THIS moment, THIS moment right here is never going to repeat itself. You can never go back on “now”, your “now” will always be here and now, in the present moment. Whether you’re reading your favorite book, drinking your morning coffee, spending time with your loved ones; do your best to be 100% present. Notice every smile, taste every single bite, feel every breath, every step, every kiss. Take time to celebrate your victories- even those very small ones as they are often just as important as the big ones.


Gossip, complaining, nagging and negative thinking- these are things that we all do. Some of us do both more often than others. Before I reading books like The Power or Spirit Junkie, things like that didn’t bother me. When it was time to get together with friends, it usually meant that we’d sit together, complain about our lives a little bit and maybe share a little gossip. Now, I recognize those habits as triggers that immediately change my energy. I no longer feel comfortable taking part in conversations where negative things or other people’s lives (who aren’t there) are the main topics being discussed. And guess what? I am much happier now. Your life is your story, that’s why you should edit it as often as you’d like.

You shouldn’t have to feel guilty about cutting someone out of your life if you feel that they have a negative influence. It may not always be easy, but it can be life-changing. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, with people who smile a lot and laugh often, people who chose to see the good in others and help make you feel happier. At the same time, make sure that you, yourself, are the type of person you’d like to be around. If there are some people in your life who aren’t exactly a positive influence but there’s no possible way for you to avoid being around them, make sure that you don’t get sucked in their negativity. If you see them talk about something negative, try to turn the conversation around into something positive. Remember that protecting your energy is your responsibility.


When I have a stressful day at work, the last thing I usually want to do is go through an intense workout session. This has become especially difficult since my back injury. But it’s on those days when I push myself a little harder; it’s on those days when I go a little further because once I do complete that workout, and I’m lying on the floor, exhausted, I feel 100 times better. I love what I do, but that doesn’t mean that my work doesn’t get stressful at times. You cannot let things you can’t control get to you and go through those intense workouts is what really releases that stress, it pumps up your endorphins which are your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters, and instantly improves your mood. If sweat-drenching workout sessions are not your thing, go for a run or a brisk walk.


Pretty much every single one of us has been hurt in the past. Whether it be a person or a series of unfortunate events, some of us hold a grudge against something or someone. If you want to be happy, you need to learn to let go. You need to learn to forgive. Forgiveness can change your life. I’m not only talking about forgiving others but also about forgiving myself. I’ve been putting myself down for years, never believing in myself, living in constant doubt. Once I found myself at a point where everything in my life was working out exactly how I dreamed, I experienced a huge setback. All of a sudden I once again found myself drowning in doubt, blaming myself for every small failure or mistake. I had to learn how to let go and forgive, all over again.

A lot of times we’re being way too hard on ourselves and don’t give ourselves enough love and credit for all that we do. Learning to let go of those limiting thoughts is a process, and you have to explore different techniques and habits to find out what works best for you. It can involve anything from using affirmations or mantras, journaling, creating a daily mindfulness practice or exploring therapy. Learn how to forgive others, but also yourself. Let go and move on.


Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.” – Lao Tzu
One of the very easy ways to feel happier, right this moment, is by becoming still. Listen to your thoughts, feel yourself breathing, slow down. You run around all day, working, taking care of others, trying to meet the deadlines, making sure all your chores are done. Even if it’s just for a few minutes a day, try being still. Try not to think about what else needs to get done. When you feel like your life is going by too fast, each day not much different from the other, just take a minute and be still, peaceful. When you start feeling angry or frustrated, stressed, take a moment to pause and be still.

Another very important thing that can help you feel happier is getting enough sleep. We’ve become used to being sleep-deprived as research proves that 1 in 3 adults do not get nearly enough sleep. Poor sleep patterns are linked to difficulty concentrating, increased levels of stress hormones and our overall health. Not to mention that lack of sleep makes us cranky and irritable. Combine it all together and you can picture just how much not getting enough sleep can affect your happiness.

The truth is that there isn’t just “one” thing that will make you feel happier. Being happy isn’t about reaching a certain point in life and saying “ok, now I’m going to be happy.” It’s about focusing on finding and trying different things and developing positive patterns that will make you feel happier, right now. If life has taught me anything in recent years, it’s that you can find happiness even in some of the darkest times. Even when everything seems to be falling apart- you just have to be careful about what you’re choosing to focus on. 


  • Reply
    Emma Lisa
    May 11, 2019 at 2:52 pm

    These are great suggestions! Getting into a workout routine always makes me feel happier x

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    Bry Jaimea
    May 12, 2019 at 7:03 am

    Great ideas! Some of these are so underappreciated, especially decluttering. A clean and clear space is so mood lifting!

    xx Bry Jaimea |

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    May 12, 2019 at 7:11 am

    Love this and these tips. I definitely need to remember to do more of these more regularly. :)
    Going to pin and save this! – Thank you!


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    Linda Libra Loca
    May 12, 2019 at 8:55 am

    I agree, even if you do all these, it can be hard to be happy if your focus switches to the wrong things. But being happy is a life long journey I guess, so the key is to never stop trying.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    Julia Speaks
    May 12, 2019 at 10:32 am

    This was such a wonderful post to read. I agree with all of it, and though I generally feel pretty happy, I want all these tips to become a habit. It’s all about being happier and healthier consistently, rather than practising these things just when I have time. Thank you for helping us becoming more aware!

    Julia x
    Last Post: How To Get Out of a Slump |

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    May 12, 2019 at 10:57 am

    What a great post, I love these tips and definitely need to enforce them. Definitely agree with the decluttering one, a tidy space can really help xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

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    Lisa Autumn
    May 12, 2019 at 11:05 am

    Girl yes! Being grateful is the best way to get happier :)

    x Lisa |

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    Mollie Quirk
    May 12, 2019 at 3:30 pm

    Yes!! love this babe! Thank you so much for writing this!

    Lots of love from Mollie, blogger at xxxx

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    May 13, 2019 at 6:49 am

    Inspiring as always! Thank you <3

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    The Sunday Mode
    May 14, 2019 at 10:52 am

    I’ve been so much better at being more present lately and it really does help, it’s calmed my anxous mind too. I feel like it’s something that’s going to take me a lifetime to master though!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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      Paula @
      May 23, 2019 at 2:39 am

      It is so hard to make it a habit but once you do, it makes a huge difference. I think the key is to follow a routine and make effort to develop habits that will help bring yourself back to the present moment.

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    kate / 35mminstyle
    May 16, 2019 at 10:22 am

    loving this! every point is so true and effective. letting go of negativity, be more kind with ourselves are some of the hardest things to reach(:

    Cate // 35mminstyle

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      Paula @
      May 23, 2019 at 2:39 am

      Thank you, Kate! Both of those definitely aren’t easy and take some effort, that’s very true. It does become a little easier after a while though.

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    Teya | Tlmblog
    May 17, 2019 at 4:41 pm

    Wow, this post is awesome! I fully agree that happiness comes from within and we’re doing ourselves a huge diservice anytime that we time to find outside ways to be happy.

    Teya |

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    Somin Bach
    June 4, 2019 at 4:28 pm

    As someone who has dealt with (and is still dealing with to some extent) anxiety, I could relate to this post on so many levels. Every point you mentioned resonated with me in some way. Especially the part about letting go – it’s so easy to hold on to things and torture yourself with it, but if you just learn to let it go, it can feel so liberating. Thanks for such an awesome post!

    Somin || All Things Good

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    YOYO Fashion
    June 24, 2019 at 7:41 am

    cherishing this, each point is so valid and compelling. relinquishing cynicism, be progressively kind to ourselves are the absolute hardest things to reach.
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    Natalie Redman
    June 26, 2019 at 7:04 pm

    Love this! Learning something new as often as possible – yas!

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