How to Quiet Your Mind and Regain Balance
Don’t you sometimes wish, that you could stop listening to your brain?
I mean, just for a little bit. Like, when you get in your bed, at the end of the day and instead of unwinding, you keep re-living your day, you worry about getting things done on time. Then, you all of the sudden remember something someone has said to you and next thing you know your mind is racing.
Sometimes I think that my mind is very much like my work desk- once in a while I need to get rid of all the clutter that found its way inside. Thing is, cleaning up, organizing and decluttering my desk is much easier, than quieting and de-clutering my mind.
PRACTICE BEING PRESENT
I think I already told you about mindfulness bells in one of my previous posts. We’re often so distracted, we don’t realize what’s happening around us. I use mindfulness bells to stay present. I drop something, I hit my elbow or my knee, I see something sparkle or hear something beep around me- I use all of those things to bring me back to present moment. Whenever I see or hear them, I automatically think to myself “What am I thinking right now? Am I being present?“.
When you feel anxious or overwhelmed, those feelings can act as a domino effect. All of the sudden all you can think about is things going wrong, or not getting something done on time. That, in turn makes you even more anxious and worried. The key is to catch those feelings as they come and to stop the pattern. Recognize them for what they are and then pause. Take a deep breath, bring your mind to present moment and focus on what you’re doing at that particular moment. This will take a lot of practice, at first. Reading this book is a great place to start if you want to learn how to practice being present.
BREAK OLD HABITS AND PATTERNS
Even some of your small habits can make a difference between living in chaos, and living in balance. Reaching for your phone while working, hitting the snooze button 5 times in a row every single morning, multitasking. Identify one of those small, thoughtless habits that doesn’t serve you, and break it. Tackle one habit at a time, and don’t expect it to happen overnight- give yourself at least a coupe of weeks.
SPEND SOME TIME ALONE
If you love working and staying busy and productive, then this might be a little difficult for you. However, it’s the best thing you can do for lowering your stress levels and anxiety. I know that when you feel anxious or worried, your first instinct is to distract yourself. Being alone with your thoughts can be terrifying. Notice those thoughts and feelings as they come, acknowledge them, and move on to the next one. As you acknowledge them, don’t say “I am feeling so overwhelmed” but instead say “I have the thought of feeling overwhelmed“. This will let you detach a little from those feelings. Then, get a little quiet. Try yoga or meditating; journal or find the time to just be still for a couple of minutes a day.
Automate what you can and cut back on any activities that don’t bring you joy are are wasting your time. Not putting things away, right away, “window’ shopping online for hours, complaining, gossiping, procrastinating, being stuck on Facebook all day-all of these are time-wasters. Re-prioritize, re-avaluate; ask yourself if a particular activity or relationship brings you joy or if it improves your life, in any other way. Once you simplify your life and cut out those distractions, you’ll be surprised at how much more productive you’ll become and how much time you’ll have.