3 Mantras to Live By (for more happiness + peace)

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3 Mantras to Live By (for more happiness + peace)

Hey, you. Today’s a good day to bring some positive changes to your life. Don’t you think?

You know what I’ve learned over the last couple of years? That it’s those small, seemingly insignificant changes that we make in our “everyday” life that can have the biggest impact. Like daily mantras. Mantras are words and phrases (or, sounds) that you repeat to yourself daily. You probably use them on regular basis, without even realizing it. Most of the time though, that form of self-talk has a negative undertone- like when you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, or that you’re stupid.

[pullquote width=”300″ float=”left”]“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”  Anthony de Mello[/pullquote]

Well, that’s one way of holding yourself back in life. When you keep chanting those I’m-not-good-enoughs in your head over and over again, eventually, you’ll believe it. One simple change,  one daily mantra, can shift your focus and make you see yourself, as you’ve never seen yourself before. 

Mantras are used in prayer and meditation, but your religious or spiritual background doesn’t matter here. You already use them, whether you realize it or not, so why not be conscious about them? Why not use mantras that will help you heal, love and introduce more peace and fun into your life?

I AM RECEIVING RIGHT NOW

Whatever it is that you think you lack: inspiration, love, money, motivation- tell yourself, every single day: I am receiving right now. Make this a daily habit. As you open your eyes in the morning, tell yourself: I am receiving right now. This is a powerful mantra that will help you develop that attitude of gratitude. When you tell yourself that you’re receiving, you’ll start looking. That’s when you notice things for the first time. You notice just how many wonderful things and people you’re surrounded with. Your friends, family, your health, your job, your favorite things- books, movies, places you love to visit.

We always want more. More money, more love, more fun experiences, more freedom. Thing is, you cannot expect to get more, if you aren’t grateful for what you already have- this can make a huge difference in your life. Be grateful for all those things you sometimes take for granted- all the way down to running water. Realize, that you’re receiving, right now.

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COMPARE NO MORE

I borrowed this one from Gabby. I know that comparison to others is something that we’re all guilty of, to some extent. It kills creativity and can create jealousy and resentment. It takes a conscious effort to free yourself of this habit. You look at someone and you think to yourself “I wish I could do that, too.” Alternatively, you judge them and tell yourself that you’re a much better person. So, on the one hand you make yourself feel bad. On the other, you make yourself feel superior.

We see this happen on social media all the time. I recently came across a post from a very successful blogger who bought a new car and shared the news on Instagram. Majority of the people who commented took the energy to say things like “you should really try being more humble” or “no need to show off all the time“.  Some, just looked at the picture without thinking much of it, and moved on with their day. Here’s a person who struggled in the past but chose not to give up and build a successful brand, why not use that as an inspiration? I believe, that when you see something special in someone else, something good or inspiring- it’s a reflection of you. Because, as you know, not everyone can notice those things. Some will use others as inspiration, some will give judgment and resentment.

The thing is, comparison is unfair. By comparing yourself to others, you are denying yourself the right to be unique. Instead, try comparing yourself to your past self. Look for the things you’ve accomplished, things you’ve had to overcome. When you waste your time comparing your life, your journey and yourself to others, you stop paying attention to all those amazing things and people that you have in your life. You think that someone else might have it easier than you because they have more money, a better job, a supportive family or because they just got “lucky”- but all of us have some sort of struggles that we go through, even if we don’t chose to share them with the world.

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LET GO

Let go of the past. Let go of the people who hold you back. Of your need to be perfect. Of anger and bitterness. It’s the only way to move on and feel less pain. There are so many things that we often cling to, things we refuse to let go of. Sometimes forgiving and letting go can be difficult, but the peace that comes with it, is worth all the effort. Focus only on those things that you can change, let go of the rest and realize that you have a choice.

If you get easily annoyed by little things like someone cutting you off on the road, someone saying something stupid- you can let go of that, too. Don’t let those small things get to you. As you feel yourself getting upset over something small, think “I let go”.

I know that it’s easy to say “I can’t be happy because I didn’t have a happy childhood“, “I can’t be successful because I don’t deserve it“, “why should I put all this effort into this, if no one will notice anyway”. “I can’t move on from this“, “I’m too old“, “I can’t do this, it’s too late for me“. I can’t, I can’t, I can’t. I’m here to tell that yes, you can. It doesn’t matter what happened, or what is now happening in your life; you can move on, you can grow and you can be happy. But you first must realize that you need to leg go of all those negative, limiting thoughts or past experiences that are holding you back. It’s your responsibility to let go.

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So, tomorrow morning, as you open your eyes, tell yourself “I am receiving, right now” over and over again. When you feel bad about something, when you feel lack of something- tell yourself “I am receiving, right now“. You might think that the idea of repeating something over and over again is a bit silly, especially when you’re telling yourself something you don’t really believe at first. But, you do tell yourself, at times, that you “can’t do this” or that you’re “not good enough” and that is silly, don’t you think?

  • These are such good mantras to live by! Letting go is a really hard thing for me and something I really need to work on for sure. Even when someone just cuts me off on the road haha! I need to start incorporating more daily mantras into my life. Loving your pictures girl. Always so stunning!!

    xx
    Nida | Caked To The Nines

  • Jayne Mattingly

    Paula,

    First off, I want to say how much I appreciate you for the honesty and beauty that you bring to the art of blogging, I find that it is a wonderful resource for so many! I cannot agree with you more that providing oneself with constant genuine positive regard and opening oneself to a place of receiving is a beautiful and truly sustainable way of living!

    I am truly passionate about using mantra’s such as these three, as well as, practicing constant self care, in that I write a blog about my own journey with eating disorder recovery, and provide resources towards self care….RecoveryLoveandCare touches on the beauty of recovery, healthy and controlled exercise, and finding genuine peace and health through truly living for life. With that being said, I thank you for your contribution to society, in that we need more posts, blogs, and resources like this! Thank you!

    Please feel free to visit my blog :)- http://recoveryloveandcare.com/

    -Jayne-

    • Thank you so much Jayne, you’re so sweet. Congratulations on your recovery that’s fantastic and so brave of you to share your journey!! It’s so important for people like you to share their story, I’ll definitely pay your blog a visit!
      Sending my love! <3

      • Jayne Mattingly

        Paula,

        Your kind and supportive words mean so much, thank you! I appreciate you visiting my blog, as I think your viewer, and many others could benefit from the content!

        Have a wonderful weekend,
        Jayne

  • Hey Paula! Thank you so much for this beautiful post — each point really resonated with me, and it’s something I really needed to hear. It’s lovely to see such positivity being spread, and this post was a pleasure to read. In fact, it just inspired me to follow you :) keep up the great work!

    Steph | Misc. Bliss

  • This is a beautiful post! I’ve spent 2016 on improving my well being and mental health, and repeating positivity, instead of negativity, has definitely helped the process. Now I like to spend my energy on helping other people in my life improve their lives as well.

    http://www.insearchofsheila.com

    • Focusing on what’s good and positive can make such a big difference in our outlook on life. No need to spend your energy on negative crap! ;)

  • Thank you so much Paula for this beautiful post <3
    xx
    http://mariannelle.com

  • Great positive post :)
    Kathy x
    http://www.alongcamekathy.blogspot.co.nz

  • Love this post, great start to my day! X

    Everything But The Kitchen

  • Learning how to let go and NOT compare is sooooooo important.

  • Kate

    Ah this is so uplifting Paula! These are things I need to remind myself of more often, so heading straight over to Bloglovin to save this right now! x

    Kate Louise Blogs

  • Laura Mareno

    So good and inspiring! Sometimes everybody need to remember these things! thanks for sharing:D

    http://laurasavenue.blogspot.com.es/

  • Let Go for sure is something I have really made a conscious effort to do. I went to a kind of talk last weekend and what they said about forgiveness and really letting shit go truly resonated with me. It’s just not healthy carrying a grudge around all the time. Great post xxx

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

    • If you find it really hard to forgive someone, tell yourself that you doing it for yourself, not for them. Letting go isn’t always easy, but once you do, it feels amazing. Thanks so much Kiran!

  • ThePartyParrotBlog

    This blogpost must be one of my favourite ones this year, no kidding. I seriously love all of the mantras and will try “I am receiving, right now” first thing tomorrow morning. Thanks so much for the inspiration, love it xx

    #goodvibesonly

    Naya
    http://www.partyparrotblog.com

  • Great girl talk dear! Very inspiring words :) Thanks for sharing! I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

    xo, mikéla / simplydavelyn.com

  • Sonini 92

    Perfect post, I love it.
    XOXO
    Pretty Little Lawyer

  • EdyeNicolesMakeup

    You always write such insightful posts! Love your blog xx

    Blessings,
    Edye | gracefulcoffee.wordpress.com

  • I love this so much! I am 100% guilty of comparison and letting little things get to me. Luckily my road rage is better (slow Eco cars will do that lol) but I definitely let little things get to me. I’ll be using these for sure!

    • My mom has the worst road rage haha I shit myself every time I need to get into a car with her haha ;) I love her to pieces though <3

  • This was amazing, especially the first mantra. Love the idea of just taking a second to see how much positive things we have and just feel grateful. Thank you so much for sharing these! (:

    Life in Pastel

  • caroline

    LOVE this, so so SO much truth. :)
    I think we’re all guilty of doing the negatives in this at some point, however it’s realising it and not letting it consume you.
    I started to write a ‘thankful’ list each evening, but I was generally writing the same three things and soon, it just became practice to me that whenever I was down or thought of a negative that I’d remember that I have life, health and family. If you always search for things to make you happy you’ll never be happy.. :)

    ps – may be late realising, you but look AMAZING in your bio pic!

    Caroline.x
    http://www.carolineelgeywhite.com

    • Thank you so much Caroline! I do the same thing every morning, it really puts me in such a good mood and changes my perspective, even if I wake up feeling cranky.

      Aww thank you for noticing the picture, so sweet of you! x

  • Brenda MacD

    great advice. Love we are receiving right now. So right about comparisons and trying to get people to realize happiness leads to more happiness. Thanks for the post!

  • I am really loving the suggestion to start the day “receiving” positivity! Will try every day to embrace this.

  • I love these mantras! Great post Paula!

    Brooke | http://www.beautydecorandmore.com

  • Mary Ann

    thank you so much… you are such an inspiration :)

  • Chantalle

    This is such a fantastic post and definitely something that I really needed to read right now, thank you so much for sharing! x

    Chantalle | http://www.ceceandgrace.blogspot.com.au

  • Perfect. These are amazing tips! I totally agree with you :) x

    http://www.serenbird.com