7 Ways to Reset When You Feel Stuck


Feeling stuck is confusing.

Who doesn’t love having something to look forward to? Feeling happy and excited. Sometimes though, things get a little quiet. You might not know what your next step should be. You don’t know where to start- you might not even know where you’re going.[pullquote width=”300″ float=”left”] It’s never too late to start over. If you weren’t happy with yesterday, try something different today! Don’t stay stuck. Do better.[/pullquote] 

It happens to pretty much all of us. It’s also a feeling that eventually passes, but it can be uncomfortable. Very uncomfortable. It can wear you down, drain your energy and make you feel like you’re ready to give up. Here’s the thing; those feelings of anxiety, overwhelm, struggle and insecurity aren’t fun. Don’t make them stick around- you don’t have to wait for them to pass.


Setting new goals for yourself can be really exciting. It’s an easy way to find that spark and inspiration again. Thinking about new goals though, isn’t enough. Write them down and give yourself a deadline. Setting up a deadline will help you prioritize, it will give you a push and force you to think about the steps you need to take to accomplish the goals you set yourself.


Clean-out your wardrobe, your kitchen, your desk, your digital mess. Delete all of those unwanted emails, get rid of all those phone apps you don’t use. Is your purse or wallet full of old receipts or coupons? Throw all of those away. It can be very refreshing and you’ll be doing something productive which will immediately make you feel better.


Do something different, try something new. Change your hair color, take a class, learn a new a skill. Trying something new and exciting, something completely different from your regular routine- it can be really refreshing. When you feel stuck you can find it very difficult to find that excitement- especially when you’re a creature of habit and most of your days look the same. Do something new, something different from your usual routine.


You feel stuck, and all you can think about are all the things you don’t have, things you have yet to accomplish. You feel like your life isn’t moving forward, like you’re not making any progress. You have to shift your focus, and start thinking about all the things that are wonderful about you, about your life. Write them down. Look for the things you’ve already accomplished and write those down, too.

While feeling stuck, you might feel discouraged and find it difficult to focus on the good things, but the more you look for them, the more wonderful things about your life you’ll notice. What are you grateful for?


Give yourself a break. Turn off your phone, put on some music. Read a book, or your favorite magazine. Cook your favorite meal- focus on all of your senses. Go for a walk, smell the fresh air, feel that light breeze on your skin, look at the way the leaves on the trees dance in the wind. Do your best to slow down and be present. What do you see at this particular moment? What do you hear? What do you smell?

When you focus on present, you’re not thinking about the past or worrying about the future. You’re not stressing or resisting. Focus on this present moment.


Staying hydrated and eating light meals is something I try to do pretty much every day, but I pay extra attention to my eating habits, whenever I’m feeling stuck. When you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, you often get that feeling when you think to yourself “I’m just ready to give up“. All you want to do is this feeling to go away, and the more you fight it and focus on it, the worse you’ll end up feeling. You then might feel like you just don’t care- all you want to do is go to sleep or plop on the couch and eat junk food. Then, you’ll feel heavy and sluggish. Staying hydrated and eating mindfully are both little acts of kindness towards yourself and your health.


Feeling stuck is just that- a feeling. If you recognize is as such and acknowledge that it’s not here to stay, you’ll immediately feel better. We recently talked about in this in this post. Learn to be mindful. Go off the “auto-pilot” and practice mindfulness during routine activities. Focus on  the sound, sight, smell, taste and feel of all those activities.

Doing any of these things can help you feel inspired and free. When you feel stuck, it’s easy to let those feelings and that negative energy take over. Mix it up a little, do something that makes you feel good, try something new and exciting. Take time to realize that you have everything you need to feel good now.


Is there anything you’d add to this list?

  • Feeling stuck is such an uncomfortable feeling. I always need to get out of the house, somewhere quiet. I usually turn off my phone as well and try to spend as much time as possible by and with myself. x

    love from cologne
    Lynn | http://www.nexttolondon.com

  • Great tips! I’ll be sharing on my Twitter account. For myself, one way that I get unstuck is living in the present moment. Not thinking ahead or thinking about what I could change. But instead, spend quality time with my family.

    • Thanks Rosie! Being present makes a big difference. I love hanging out with my family too- just depends on what kind of funk I’m in :) sometimes, all I need is to spend some time alone, sometimes I HAVE to surround myself with the people I love.

  • Thanks for sharing, really great!



  • Being stuck is just the worse, isn’t it? At least when something bad happens, there is always hope that the worst is behind us. Being stuck means behind us and in front of us and everywhere it is just… well… nothing of any value, really.

    • Yes, it really is one of the worst feelings. But I have to say that some of my best ideas usually come to me after being stuck in a rut for some time ;)

  • Disconnecting always helps when I’m feeling stuck. Great post, Paula!

    xo, Liz

  • Biana Perez

    We’re in the process of moving and the decluttering has helped feel a little more in control of the whole situation! xo, Biana –BlovedBoston

  • These are lovely tips! To declutter and disconnect always works for me! Often gives new perspectives and energy! Xx


  • Daisy Renoj

    This post is a good reminder for me. I need to do a major clean out soon! :) Great tips!

  • Changing things up is a great way to refresh your mind and soul! I also fin decluttering to help a lot! Great tips Paula!


    Tamara – LoveofMode.com

  • You’re always going to feel stuck at some point, so it’s really important to declutter and destress, these are some great tips! Setting new goals and disconnecting every now and then is so important!
    Maya Not Mya

  • Wonderful tips and post. Totally great. So true, if you’re not confident with your life, change it!


  • Jess

    Loved this post! Some really helpful tips xx


  • Disconnecting is KEY! When I feel stuck I then find myself spending an hour surfing Instagram. That does not help the problem one bit. Unplugging and sitting with my thoughts always helps me tremendously!

  • Thank you Paula! I’ve done 4,5,and 6 regularly, but I think I need to pick up 2 and 3. I’m creature of habit, so trying out new thing is daunting for me. But I do believe that change can lead to great things, hopefully, I can do it soon, but first, clean up! :)

    Selene Addicted

  • The first 3 things you said are so amazing and so important!! <3 Thank you so much for posting this! It was such a lovely blog to read, also very helpful! <3

    Amelia | Amelia Grace

  • Such lovely tips Paula – I love the pinnable edits you’re adding to your motivational blog posts these days, I’ve pinned this one for when I’m feeling stuck and need some ways to reset :)
    – Ambar x

  • I just bought this diary! It is perfect as I really needed to organise my life as I was stuck in a rut and becoming so overwhelmed with what I was doing! You always have great tips and they are so inspiring to read!

    Blog || Instagram

  • Laura Mareno

    Disconnect is what I usually do when I need to reset! I always feel much more relaxed! thanks for sharing!:D


  • The Gossip Darling

    OMG. Me right now. I’ve been disconnecting. I think a break is what I need. Not from blogging but from work and the stress…

    Mel | http://www.thegossipdarling.com

  • Wow! Another inspiring post from you. :) I just couldn’t help but read your complete post everytime. Its so important to be grateful for all the things you’ve accomplished and I totally agree with you that it’s just a temporary feeling and we can do much to get it better.


  • I am feeling stuck at the moment with my blog, I just feel like I haven’t improved as much as I want so maybe it’s time to step back for a bit and just start fresh with better photography and content that I will always be proud of. This post is super inspiring and I will definitely take note of your tips xox

    Beauty with charm

  • I agree with all of those! Especially the change one. Whenever I start to feel blah and down, as soon as I change my hair color I feel a million times better. I go out to a store like TJ Maxx or Marshalls and pick up a bunch of new clothes and refresh me on the outside, which usually refreshes me on the inside, too!
    Sitting down and doing a DIY is helpful for me, too, but it has to be something that I can finish in a day. The satisfaction of creating something from start to finish is really rewarding! And, as always with me, knitting lol But there are few things I can actually finish in a day so that’s just a general thing I do to maintain the happiness! :)

  • This post is perfect, and EXACTLY what I needed to read today. I feel so stuck it’s insane. I think new goals is just what I need (in addition to mindfulness, journaling, and everything in between!). Thank you for this!
    -Dara || http://www.peoniesandhoneybees.com

  • simplygailg

    I needed this article today although it was posted a while ago. I’m feeling a bit stuck today so I’m going to look up an apple pie recipe and bake! Thanks for this!

  • Natalie Redman

    Great tips to get yourself of that funk you’re in. Love it!