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5 Things to focus on when you’ve lost your motivation

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5 Things to focus on when you’ve lost your motivation

Here’s the thing about motivation: the only person that can help you find it when you’ve lost it, is you.

It’s nice if you can have someone give you a little pep talk, but it doesn’t always work. I’m actually known for giving pep talks and love pointing out all the amazing things the person I talk to have accomplished, to arouse their enthusiasm. I feed off that energy of rising enthusiasm and love spreading positivity.

BUT they don’t really work on me, and I know that I’m not the only one. Finding motivation isn’t as easy as reading a powerful quote or watching an inspiring video. It’s not. Motivation is something that comes from within. You’re the one who has to change your thinking, you’re the one who has to kind of snap out of it and keep yourself going.

Yes, it’s great to be surrounded with positive and inspiring people who help you maintain your focus. The thing is, you can’t get motivation from someone else. You have to find it within yourself.


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Oh wow. How motivating, right?

Well, I’m just being honest. Think about it. If accomplishing goals and dreams and fulfilling plans or staying disciplined was easy, we’d all be living out our dream lives. A lot of people will tell you to just stay positive and happy and raise your vibes and it’ll all work out. While those things are important, they will get you nowhere unless you’re prepared to do the work.

I’m not saying this to discourage you, I’m saying this to prepare you. When you put yourself in that mindset and realize that things won’t always come easy, you prepare yourself for potential obstacles, setbacks or small failures and, well…  the hard work.


Surround yourself with positive people, interesting books, and everything that you find inspiring. If something doesn’t make you feel good to get rid of it; unfollow negative people on social media. Some of us are lucky to have a positive outlook on life, no matter what the circumstances are. On the other hand, some of us often feel like we have to put ourselves in a good mood and it sometimes feels forced. And that doesn’t feel good. This is why surrounding yourself with things you love, things and people who make you happy is important; when you feel down and uninspired, you’ll find it easier to snap out of it.

Whenever I sit down to write or do a task I dread, I kind of hype myself up first. I make myself feel good. Read a chapter or two of a good book, meditate, drink a cup of my favorite tea- whatever it takes to lift up my energy. After that, writing comes easier, and work doesn’t seem as dreadful.

Another thing to remember is something I already mentioned in this post; simplify and declutter. Get rid of all the junk, the clutter on your desk, the mess in your closet, clean out your purse from old receipts, old mail, recycle old magazines, make your bed, make sure your sink is clean and your laundry is done.


We all have big goals and dreams. Some of us want to change careers, to start a business, get fit, some dream of buying a house, maybe your dream is to start a family. When you feel uninspired, it’s easy to take a look at your goals in life and think “I’m never going to get there“. This is why it’s so important that you set small goals. Ask yourself “what can I do today, that will bring me closer to living the life I dream of?”

By setting those small goals, you will feel more encouraged, you won’t look at this big mountain and think of ways to climb it; you’ll actually be taking small steps, every day (as long as you stay on track) and will get closer to the top. There’s another benefit to setting small goals: you get to look back and see just how far you’ve come. Make a list and keep track of your progress, take a look back and look at all the things you’ve overcome, things you accomplished. If your work is of creative nature, you can save some pieces of your art, photos or texts and keep them all in a notebook so that you can monitor your progress. Then, on days when you do feel unmotivated, you can look through your notes and see that you’re not standing still, that you’re getting where you want to be. One step at a time.

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I talk a lot about how running this blog changed my life. How it helped me find a passion for things I never knew I had a passion for, how much excitement, fun and growth it brought to my life- these are a few things that my office job often lacks. But what I probably never told you, is how many times I wanted to close down this blog. It’s not easy to admit, but it’s true. I sometimes think to myself that it’s pointless or I have these random thoughts of “what are you doing? you’re running a blog, like wtf?” I notice these patterns more and more often. As your blog grows, people have a lot of expectations. The more people read it, the more are willing to point out your mistakes and just the thought of tens of thousands of people reading your blog every week, is a little frightening. Yes, it’s exciting, but it also gives me anxiety.

On those days, I think of my “why“. Why DO I do it? I think of how much fun I’m having and I think of You. I think of how many emails and comments I get that often make me tear up and smile, how many times I hear that my posts are helpful, I think of all the wonderful people I got to know. I’m the girl who grew up thinking she’ll never be good at anything, never feeling good enough. Now I have people call my posts “inspiring“, which, by the way, I still think sounds a bit insane to me.

That is my “why.”

What’s yours? Think about it. You have goals and dreams. Who do you want to make proud? Your “why” is the reason you’re willing to put in that hard work, it’s the reason why you have goals in the first place. If one of your goals is to get fit, it’s probably because you want to feel better, have more energy, you want to be stronger, you want your clothes to fit better. Whatever your “why” is, write it down. Sometimes, all it takes to feel motivated again is realizing that you’re doing this for a reason.


This is another thing I mentioned in a previous post. It’s okay to feel uninspired sometimes. If you really don’t feel like it, don’t force yourself to do the work. We all have those days when everything seems hopeless. Allow yourself to take a break, to pause, to stop, to practice a little self-care, to slow down. It’s okay.

BUT at the same time, don’t use the “bad day” excuse too often. Don’t make it a habit and don’t make excuses every single day. If you always put everything off until “tomorrow” that “tomorrow” might never arrive.

Those good days you have? Days when you’re full of energy and inspiration? Milk them. Write down ideas, your thoughts, your plans. Get a notebook and write everything down- use that as a way to prepare yourself for those days when you feel lost or uninspired.

How do you stay motivated?


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    Tabi Bee
    April 11, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    These are all such amazing tips – going to be so useful! <3

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    April 11, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Thank you for such a helpful and inspiring post. It’s so important to set yourself small and achievable goals, otherwise you will feel like you have never achieved anything.

    Alice | alicemaysnell

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    April 11, 2017 at 12:35 pm

    I just loved reading this – it made me feel motivated to make the most of those productive days but still to remeber self-care! Thank you for a lovely post, brilliant tips!
    Chloe xxx

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    April 11, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Very good post, love reading this! Very inspiring to set goals! Thank you.

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    April 11, 2017 at 3:25 pm

    I think that taking a break is such a good idea when motivation is lacking. It often helps me a great deal x


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    April 11, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    I think hyping yourself up is a great tip! It’s like a small burst of energy that you give yourself and it can really help as a short-term fix.

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    Dagmara Klich
    April 11, 2017 at 4:51 pm

    I couldn’t agree more with stating that only we can motivate ourselves. I’ve lost count how many times my husband or friend tried to help me/motivate me with some things in life and while I would agree with them I still had no motivation until finally I felt it deep inside of me and then just did what I wanted to do, like getting the driving licence for example :) x

    Mummy’s Beauty Corner

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    Liz | Lipstick & Confetti
    April 11, 2017 at 4:53 pm

    Love these tips!

    xo, Liz

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    Sea + Terra
    April 11, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    Thank you so much! I needed this pep talk today.

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    Natalie Harney
    April 11, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    I’m al about taking a break and then starting with the little things, or breaking your tasks into tiny chunks, so that you can get your momentum back, sometimes you just need a bit of a rest.

    – Natalie

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    Melissa Cruz
    April 11, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    I think it’s so important to keep track of your progress! It’s important to let know yourself you are on your way.

    xx, Melissa

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    April 11, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    Cleaning and having a new work space always gets me motivated! I always feel re energised when I have new decor or a new layout going on!
    Kathy x

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    April 11, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    This was such a helpful and inspiring post!
    Cloe X

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    April 11, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    It’s so interesting to me how one day I’ll feel so motivated and excited about my blog, and then the next day I’ll just have no desire to do anything. I think setting smaller goals will help me keep focus without feeling overwhelmed. Thanks for the great tips, Paula!

    Jenn │ Beauty by Jellybean

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      Paula @
      April 15, 2017 at 1:36 pm

      Oh God, I feel the same way. I just don’t get it; one day I feel so energized and motivated and then the next day I feel so hopeless hehe :) So important to remember that you don’t have to do it all at once. Thanks for reading Jenn!

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    April 12, 2017 at 12:29 am

    Paula it’s just like you read my mind! I go through soooo many of these things. I was just telling my friend that maybe I should quit my blog and don’t know why I’m doing it. She reminded me that I’m doing it because I love it so much! I’m still very new to blogging but I’ve experienced many of the things you describe here. Blogging has exceeded all my expectations. It’s been a wonderful hobby, it’s therapeutic and inspires me to want to do better each day. It’s literally helped sweep me out of a mild bout of depression. I’ve learned so much and know i have so much more to learn. No way do I really want to quit. Reading your post has helped me not feel so alone with all the different challenges. Thanks for being who you are! (And for not quitting your blog) ?

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      Paula @
      April 15, 2017 at 2:06 pm

      I can relate to everything you’re saying here Crystal! I think it’s natural for us to doubt ourselves sometimes; I can’t imagine my life without blogging and I’ve been doing it since I was a teen. Thankfully those feelings of doubt are usually temporary, so it’s silly to act on them. You’re not alone in this! :) Thank you so much for your kind words and for taking the time to read this post! x

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    Emily Trinh
    April 12, 2017 at 1:05 am

    I think decluttering is such a great way to help fuel your motivation. When your desk is unorganised, room is messy and you have dirty dishes in the sink, these things nag you in the back of your mind, which can be detrimental to your ability to concentrate. A clear mind means that you have a clean slate to work on for the day, which can really help you become more focused at the task at hand.

    Emily |

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    Linda Libra Loca
    April 12, 2017 at 3:29 am

    Keeping track of small goals is what helps me to stay motivated the most. Ticking things off my list is a small victory and gives me satisfaction that generates more motivation.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    Yvonne Ashon
    April 12, 2017 at 11:39 am

    Lovely post.

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    Katherine Tran
    April 12, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    I like the idea of setting small goals and keeping track of progress, thanks for sharing!

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    April 13, 2017 at 1:29 am

    Hi Paula.

    I know you probably have a lot of comments and emails to work through, but I just wanted to thank you for everything that you do here. I have been at a really strange place in my life, and recently I have been trying to turn things around. One thing that I really enjoyed before I made several big decisions that has affected my life in many ways, was blogging. I used to blog a lot, starting and stopping, and I never really found a reason to continue. The biggest issue with me is consistency and motivation. I recently discovered Bloglovin and came across your blog tonight, and I have been browsing and clicking around for hours now. You have AMAZING content. I love that you have so much technical info I can learn from, and what I have come to value most in such a short time, are your posts about mental health (self-care techniques, decluttering, etc).

    Again, thank you so so much for everything!

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      Paula @
      April 15, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      Thank you so much Love! Blogging can be such a great outlet and you can learn so much about yourself. Thank you so much for your kind comment and taking the time to read, so happy that you like my work and welcome! :)

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    April 13, 2017 at 6:12 am

    Paula you are such an inspiring person! Thank you so much for sharing the post, useful tips, reading this really gives me motivation to do things!

    Great post!!!

    N, xoxo. /

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    April 13, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    This is a fantastic post and I am glad I stumbled upon it, as it is something that I really needed to read right now. Setting small but achievable goals is very important for me so it feels like I am actually getting somewhere!! I always need to remind myself that while inspirational quotes etc are great, you really don’t get to where you want to be without putting in the hard work! xx

    Chantalle |

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      Paula @
      April 15, 2017 at 2:04 pm

      Setting small goals is the key to not getting discouraged, I think. Definitely something that works very well for me :)

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    April 16, 2017 at 12:15 am

    I definitely have thoughts like that about my blog at times. I feel like it comes with the territory when being a blogger. You want to grow your blog while at the same time treat it like a wonderful hobby and not put too much pressure on yourself. I feel like at times we see other bloggers and they almost make it look so effortless how they go about blogging while one can look at their own blog and wonder if it’s good enough or worthy to keep it up. I also find decluttering and cleaning helps with motivation

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      Paula @
      April 21, 2017 at 7:02 pm

      There’s definitely not a lot of things about blogging that are “effortless”- it’s actually a lot of work and that’s something not many people talk about. I think the important thing to remember is that we all have something special and unique to offer :)

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    April 16, 2017 at 12:28 am

    decluttering and simplifying are so important, i am in the process and i feel so much better!

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    The Gossip Darling
    April 16, 2017 at 9:50 pm

    Omg I love your posts sooo much!! SO helpful!!!! Small goals….I need to remember this…

    Mel |

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    Natalie Redman
    April 17, 2017 at 6:11 pm

    Taking a break is so good when blogging, otherwise I find the content does lack. Your posts are always so well laid out! You are certainly inspiring.

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    jamie fechtmuller
    May 1, 2017 at 10:33 am

    I am so happy that I stumbled across your blog today, and that I read this post. It is exactly what I needed to hear today. THANK YOU.

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      Paula @
      May 1, 2017 at 11:38 am

      And I am so happy to hear that Jamie!! You are so so welcome and thank you for taking the time to read my post! :)

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    Sylvia Farrow
    May 14, 2017 at 7:26 pm

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and how you continue to overcome obstacles. It was encouraging and inspiring. Keep up the good work!

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    Jade Dsa
    July 23, 2017 at 3:03 pm

    Wonderful topic to write on and great tips! Thanks for the inspiration!

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    Edgard Tuesday
    June 12, 2021 at 8:03 am

    Thank you for this. I’ve got the knowledge for motivation.

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