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How to Chase Your Dreams

How to Chase Your Dreams

How to Chase Your Dreams

Most of us go through life, waiting for something to happen.

Sure, we dream.

We close our eyes, we see ourselves living the life we’ve always wanted to live, doing things we’ve always wanted to do. For some, it’s being able to stay at home and raise their children. For others, it’s having a flourishing career; or traveling the world, or living on a farm.

We then open our eyes and think: “dreams are for stupid and naive“- and that’s where it all begins. The smallest thought, one limiting belief can crush your biggest dreams. The thought that you don’t have what it takes, that it’s too late for you, or that your goals and dreams can wait.

Call it doubt, call it fear, call it lack of motivation. Sometimes, we fail to accept the fact that we are the ones responsible for our lives and, consequently, our own happiness.


How to Chase Your Dreams


“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right.” ~ Henry Ford
How often do you hear someone (perhaps even yourself) say “I really want to ____, but I know that I will never be able to do it because ___” or “it’s easy for her/him to say/do, I never had that opportunity”. It doesn’t matter how many supportive people you have in your corner, if that’s the type of attitude you have, you will never get to where you want in life. To chase your dreams, you sometimes need to believe in the impossible, and you need to quit making excuses.

You don’t see happy and successful people say things like: “well… I might try this, but what’s the point, it won’t work anyway.

It doesn’t matter if your dream is to have an amazing career, start a family, find a partner or to excel at something different, like a sport- you need to believe that you are capable of making your dreams become a reality. You can’t let things like your past experiences, opinions of others, or your age stop you from going after the things you want.


First, you need to believe in yourself. Period. It doesn’t matter if you have a bunch of people tell you that you’re strong, smart, brave. Unless you, yourself, believe it, it just won’t click. Motivation is something that can only come from within. Once you start surrounding yourself with people who are loving, supportive and encouraging, you start believing in yourself even more. Surround yourself with people who have that good, contagious energy. When you have no other choice but deal with people who are negative or drain the positivity out of you, learn to protect your own energy.

I hear people being encouraging… in a very discouraging way, all the time. People who say things like “well, you can try going for it, but I doubt you’ll get anywhere, but you know, good luck” or “things like that don’t happen to people like us.” These words can certainly discourage a person from talking about their plans, or things they want to accomplish. If you can’t talk about your dreams and plans with those who are close to you, how can you really support and encourage one another?


Stepping out of your comfort zone is scary and it can even be paralyzing at times. I’ve dealt with anxiety for years and sometimes even the smallest of things can be terrifying for me. Here’s what I’ve learned: the more you push yourself through, the more you put yourself in situations where you know you won’t have complete control, as you try more and more new things, you grow. You learn new things about yourself and you realize that this fear that you’re feeling, is what can eventually help you become fearless.

We are creatures of comfort- there’s no denying that- and if we had it our way, we’d probably never leave our comfort zone, where fear or anxiety is a rare guest. Challenging and pushing yourself past your fears, is the only thing that can make you grow.  Dream chasers step out of their comfort zone on a regular basis- it’s how they become more creative and confident. It’s also what can help you feel inspired again after you’ve been “stuck”  for a while. Sometimes, you might not even know that you have a passion for something until you try it.


Whatever it is you’re after in life, you can’t let yourself be discouraged easily. Be it by other people, even those close to you, or by your own negative self-talk. If it was easy to go after what you want, then everyone you know would be living out their dream life.

Chasing your dreams isn’t always easy.

Failing isn’t easy.

Pushing yourself through tough times isn’t easy.

Doing things and working toward your dreams and goals when you don’t feel like it, isn’t easy.

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” ~ Suzy Kassem
This is why not everyone is willing to do what it takes to live out their dreams. If you want to chase your dreams and make them come true, you pick yourself up and try again, each time you fail. Most people see fear and challenges as obstacles and they tend to run away from them. It’s the first thing that comes to mind, a logical, it seems, thing to do. To chase your dreams, you need to interpret that fear as a challenge itself, an opportunity;  don’t ask: “what’s the worst thing that could happen?” ask: what’s the best thing that could happen?


In the age when social media seem to have taken over our lives, it’s very easy to start comparing yourself to others- which can often lead to you feeling discouraged. Chase your own dreams- realize that we all have our own and unique path. Be so busy working on your own grass, that you don’t have time to notice someone else’s might be greener.

This won’t always be easy- especially when sometimes it seems that everyone’s doing great things and moving on in life, while you’re at a standstill, feeling confused, in a rut, not knowing what your next step should be. Rather than feeling bad or envious and pushing those things or experiences away, think of it this way: it’s the Universe (or God, or “life” whatever you choose to believe) showing you that it can be done, that it is possible. You deserve to have amazing things, people and experiences in your life, just as much as anyone else. Yes, some people might have it easier than others; that does not mean that you’re in any way less capable of finding and following your passion and bringing your dreams into reality.

How to Chase Your Dreams.

Another very important thing I’ve learned? In order to learn how to chase your dreams, you can’t be afraid to fail- and this might be the toughest part to accept. Some of the best lessons you’ll ever learn will come from your failures. Some failures come with no lessons at all. 

Dreaming, but not doing, is just wishing. You can’t wait for the perfect moment or opportunity to come your way. You can’t wait for things to just “happen.” Act on your desires and chase your dreams, even if it means taking very small steps, one day at a time.


  • Reply
    July 13, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    Love this post! Truly I think the answer is simple: work work work. We definitely all need to be so busy worrying about ourselves that we don’t even notice others. That’s probably the biggest thing I see among bloggers…people comparing social media followers, tracking exactly how many so-and-so has v. so-and-so. Checking to see if people bought followers, whatever. If you’re truly focused on yourself, none of that noise should matter to you.

    xoxo – Kelly

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      Paula @
      July 13, 2018 at 2:37 pm

      Thank you, Kelly! I completely agree with you. You have to put in the work and make things happen. Concerning yourself with other people and comparing both your and their paths is such a waste of time and energy- energy that would be put into a much better use if we just focus on our own work. x

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    Lisa Autumn
    July 14, 2018 at 4:58 am

    YES! This was so motivating babe.. thank you!

    x Lisa |

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    Danielle Alexa
    July 14, 2018 at 1:05 pm

    This is such a lovely and motivating post, I really loved reading it!

    Danielle xx

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    Fads A
    July 16, 2018 at 10:49 am

    “Keep going, no matter what.” This is so important because this shows that you really are dedicated and motivated to reach your dreams. Just keep going. I’d love take that as an affirmation especially when I’m feeling out of focus.

    Thanks for sharing this. I actually also wrote similar content to this inspired by an Artist of Life. However, I really really like how you wrote this. It’s inspiring.

    Love, Fads | The Ästron

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    Natalie Redman
    July 16, 2018 at 4:51 pm

    Great tips! Not comparing yourself to others is a good one!

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    Linda Libra Loca
    July 17, 2018 at 2:52 am

    Everything is true, Paula, and very well written. Not being afraid to fail is something I struggle with, being a perfectionist at heart. I learned to accept that not trying means failing for sure, but it was quite a process.

    Anne|Linda, Libra, Loca

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      Paula @
      July 22, 2018 at 12:29 pm

      Thank you, Anne! Oh yes, being a perfectionist will do that to you. Getting over that mindset definitely takes some time (and practice!)

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    The Sunday Mode
    July 17, 2018 at 9:07 am

    I’ve recently had more and more ‘good ones’ around me and it’s incredible the way the change in that energy completely shifts my mood and how I see the world.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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      Paula @
      July 22, 2018 at 12:31 pm

      Right? It’s amazing how you don’t even notice how some people tend to drain all the positive energy out of you, until you change that environment.

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    Andrea Mazzola
    July 18, 2018 at 8:49 pm

    “You learn new things about yourself and you realize that this fear that you’re feeling, is what can eventually help you become fearless.” Love this. This was a wonderful post to wake up to.

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    Naya //
    July 19, 2018 at 3:56 am

    Such a thoughtful post here, thank you so much for sharing it with us! I love Kassem’s quote; couldn’t agree more – when we doubt ourselves – this is when our problems start. You just have to get up and keep pushing, no matter how much time it takes. Hope you are having a wonderful day Paula! xx

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      Paula @
      July 22, 2018 at 12:36 pm

      Thank you so much, Naya! I think the key is to take small steps every single day, even when you don’t necessarily feel like it.

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    July 23, 2018 at 10:50 am

    Great post! excelent!!

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